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Asklemmy Cloak 1 year ago 96%
No support here! [Please report support posts]

There's been an influx of content surrounding lemmy here. Some of it is open ended: - "What kinds of things from reddit would you like to see Lemmy avoid as the user base grows?" - "Lemmy, what do you call users of Lemmy?" And these are a-ok! There's also been a lot of questions like - "How do I block a user?" - "How do I join a community on a different instance" These aren't open ended (at least, relatively). They are objective based, and just need a resolution, rather than discussion. These sort of questions are more relevant to [!lemmy_support@lemmy.ml](https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy_support). I know there's also questions like "What are you guys doing when there’s multiple communities for the same thing across instances?". I'm inclined to let those stay, there is lots of opportunity for discussion. It's a game of discretion from a moderation perspective, but I assume most can easily guess what is cold hard support. At least from me, moderation of support posts has been sporadic at best, despite the long standing rule. I will begin redirecting these questions to [!lemmy_support@lemmy.ml](https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy_support), however I'm of course willing to listen to the community here if that's not what is wanted, as well as other feedback. edit: support posts will now be removed, not locked

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Asklemmy pineapplelover 19 hours ago 87%
Fun Activites and Sidequesting Adventures to do

So I was out with my friend today and we had nothing planned. So I would like to ask y'all to suggest activities and just little adventures you guys would do. List of things we did: - Searched online of things to do in our county and found some cool activities. Ended up going to a vietnamese lantern festival thing - Geocaches - Wandered around in a park because of geocaching - Tasting of water from the water fountain at the park

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Asklemmy fractal_flowers 4 hours ago 93%
How can money be both devalued and expensive?

An acquaintance who works in finance said that the USD was devalued during COVID but hasn't yet experienced much inflation except in household goods because money is still expensive. What does that even mean? How can money be expensive? And how does that differ from being valued/devalued? I would think "money is expensive" means something along the lines of "there isn't much liquid cash", but I thought the money injected into the economy *was* liquid cash. Would someone more into finance/trading than me explain how this is possible? Thanks!

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Asklemmy dotslashme 12 hours ago 98%
How to deal with exhaustion?

I, probably like many others, am struggling with exhaustion that seem hard to shake. It kills my hobbies and interests one by one, it makes doom scrolling and watching stupid shows seem like the only valid activities I can handle. I have tried the "touch grass", I regularly switch off my phone to take breaks from social media, but it is hard to find motivation to anything but sleep and watch TV on the weekends. Are there methods to deal with this sort of exhaustion from... **gestures broadly at everything** ? Edit: after the initial replies I realized I probably should mention that I already do regular therapy and take prescription drugs for depression.

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Asklemmy joelthelion 17 hours ago 91%
What are your best tips for finding quality stuff on AliExpress and similar?

AliExpress can offer great deals, but it's also very easy to get scammed, receive a cheap knock-off, or even end up with nothing at all. The search engine isn't very helpful, often mixing reputable merchants with sketchy ones and real products with junk. So far, I've found the AliUp extension, which seems fairly helpful. I wish there were third-party websites with independent reviews, but I haven't found anything truly helpful or comprehensive yet. So, what are your tips for buying on AliExpress or similar platforms?

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Asklemmy Melatonin 1 day ago 92%
My wife has an iPhone. I have a Samsung S23. Why do videos she texts me look like super low res shit?? Can iPhones not text videos?

Edit: NOTE, I am the ***receiver*** of the texts. So many people asking me to have my wife do something different on her end. Beloved, she is on iPhone because she doesn't want to do anything "weird." She is texting from her phone number using her texting app. That's what's going to happen. Now, why can't I get iMessage on my android phone? If it's just a messenger app why not make it available for Android? I'd use it.

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Asklemmy Eczpurt 4 hours ago 100%
Windows Security Remediation Incomplete

Hey all, not sure if this is the right place but I figure someone here will be able to help. Windows Defender found something called "Trojan:Win32/Ashify.J!frn" and failed to quarantine it apparently. This was earlier today that it was detected and it affected a strange file under AppData/Roaming/T2GP Launcher/Steam/Cache/Prod/GpuCache to a text file called "index" with some weird changelogs for a gameboy advance emulator. No google results pointed to anything meaningful. Only a few posts suggesting the games launcher may have prompted a false positive, an old post about password protected files from 2022, and a malwarebytes warning from 2kgames spreading Red Line malware from 2022 as well. Just checking to see if anyone knows anything or has experienced something similar before!

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Asklemmy Alice 2 days ago 100%
What books do you consider must reads?

So basically I was unschooled, and the amount of books I've read in my life is embarrassingly low. It was never emforced like in a school, and with my family's religious hangups, I never tried getting into new things because I never knew what would be deemed "offensive". But I'm always interested when I hear people talk about both storycraft and also literary criticism, so I want to take an earnest stab at getting into books. No real criteria, I don't know what I like so I can't tell you what I'm looking for, other than it needs to be in English or have an English translation. Just wanna know what y'all think would make good or important reading. ETA holy shit thanks for all the suggestions! Definitely gonna make a list

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Asklemmy SurpriZe 12 hours ago 95%
What's the easiest way to update bios on my Ubuntu laptop without a USB?

As a lifelong Windows user I've just for the first time switched to Ubuntu and I'm learning how to navigate the system but I haven't found an easy way to update my Carbon's X1 Gen 6 BIOS from its hard disk and would appreciate any advice. I'd be also happy to hear what I should do as a newcomer to Ubuntu to make my experience with it better and have an easier time overall.

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Asklemmy upsiforgot 1 day ago 96%
Is it really just ageing/ getting older? How is this supposed to work? How is everyone else doing this?

Edit: thank you all very much for your time, thoughts and effort to reply to this. I really appreciate it and I try to find a new doctor. Your questions and encouragement were very helpful and made me realise that my symptoms are too strong, considering my lifestyle. For those who asked questions, here are the answers: I eat healthy, we cook fresh, colourful food almost every day, only drink water, coffee, tea, no alcohol, no smoking, no fast food. I walk my dog several times a day and when I'm doing something where I have to sit for an extended period of time, I take a little walk evey hour or so and also use a standing desk attachment to change my position. I sleep on a really good mattress (my partner struggled with our last one so we invested in a good pair of matresses, matching our body type) I have a healthy weight on the lower end of the scale. I had to cut back my exercise that I was doing for twelve years due to the pain, switched to light Yoga and streching until even that became unbearable. Thinking about all this together, I think my fear of not being taken serious made me believing my current GP. I'm in my mid twenties. My body seems struggling, since May/ June, so some time then I went to my GP. His response: "everyone experiences symptoms of their ageing body at a different time, seems like you just experience it earlier..." This was around May/ June, it just tends to get worse. Which leads to the questions featured in the title. My body hurts, like, a lot. Especially my low back/ sacrum. My knees, shoulders, wrists, ankels. My hands are swollen in the morning and they hurt, I can't unscrew any lids or bottle caps, sometimes can't even write anymore as my fingers are very stiff. As the rest of my body. I can't reach for anything on the ground in the morning, it makes everything so difficult. I can't really bend over to tie my shoes or pick something up. I can't do my regular activities even though I really want to do my sports like climbing which I really like. I do like being active and want to stay fit. But it just hurts too much. At the same time, resting somehow makes it even worse. I'm exhausted, but need to constantly move around on a low level. How is everyone else doing this if this is what ageing feels like? How am I supposed to have kids or even just live like this, as I always just hear that with an ageing body, everything just gets harder every year? I really do appreciate everyone who reads this. Thank you in advance for answering if you have any tips on how you manage this

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Asklemmy starlord 1 day ago 94%
Parent to Moderate YouTube

Hello, folks. Hoping I can get some opinions on my situation. My 12-yo watches *a lot* of YouTube. It is mostly streaming personalities who have a lot to say on a variety of topics. I have either watched these videos with them, overheard them from another room, or looked some up from their history and viewed them myself. I have problems with them and want to do something about it. I care little about the topics being discussed; my child is allowed to be interested in their own things, even those separate from ours (their parents), and it's also reasonable for them to disagree with us. All of that is fine. My problem is with how these streamers present their content: 1. They do not provide critical scrutinization of the issues. 2. They do not apply logical rationalization or reason to the stances they take. 3. They do not cite sources of repute to justify their positions. 4. They are needlessly hyperbolic. 5. They examine no dissenting opinions. 6. They present themselves as authorities on every topic with zero credentials to support that assertion. 7. They succumb to, support, and repeat what is obviously propaganda. To say nothing of the fact that the value the entertainment potential and viewership counts more than the content of their arguments. I was raised allowed to moderate my own content because I was trusted to be intelligent and wise enough to critically select what I watched or read and learn from the mistakes I made if I consumed something negatively influential. I have tried to extend this same trust to my 12-yo, but their constant repetition of what they hear and their inability to form a cogent argument makes me feel like their YouTube viewing habits are teaching them to accept concepts at face-value simply because they are popular. I don't feel it would be productive to start out-right blocking content and pundits because this would feel more hegemonic than educational. I'd rather increase the likelihood that they'd critique and dismiss the content than decrease the likelihood that they'd view it. I would love to hear what others have to say about this situation.

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Asklemmy spicytuna62 3 days ago 98%
What game, book, TV show, and/or movie do you wish you could experience for the first time again?

This thread has convinced me to play Outer Wilds. My picks are: - Game: Portal 2. - Book: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. - TV show: Bojack Horseman. - Movie: The Shawshank Redemption.

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Asklemmy ApollosArrow 3 days ago 97%
Can anyone name some mysteries in stories where the answer ended up delivering and was better than the mystery itself?

I’ve watched shows, movies, read comics or listened to podcasts where there is a lot of build up around a mystery, only for the end to be lackluster. In these the journey itself was more riveting than where we ended up. What are some instances where the answer lived up to the hype?

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Asklemmy subarctictundra 4 days ago 92%
How do I stop a 'planned future' from blindly determining my life's path?

For most of my teens I (21) had a broad but distinct vision for what I wanted my 20s to look like. It was everything I liked, I was looking forward to it, and was planning around it. Unfortunately it now seems that a central tenet of that vision will not be possible and I'm gonna have to rethink my 20s to suddenly look radically different (not sure how yet) to what I had come to anticipate. What's more, some of the things outside of my influence that I was sorta expecting to have happened by now (first kiss etc) haven't and I've found myself **waiting around for them** before I feel prepared to move on (they were part of the vision). Unfortunately, since I had come to identify myself with and live in expectation of this path for my 20s, even when the central thing became impossible I tried to salvage the rest and make the side things still happen – which, as I have found, takes much more effort without that central thing tying them together. Since I've been planning around it for so long, I've sort of forgotten what alternatives there are so I don't even know what else could be right for me (or how to find that out). I think what makes it so hard to abandon the future I was expecting is that **it gave me a sense of identity**. This might also be because I didn't like the life my parents had arranged for me during my teens. I'm afraid that if I try to go with the flow, embrace my actual (unhappy) reality and don't try to correct my course to at least partially replicate the future that was supposed to happen, I would eventually become a different person, which discomforts me. It's also the reason I'm afraid to try new things that could distract me from the (albeit now impossible) trajectory that I have come to identify with. I guess this really leads me to ask **what the bigger mistake that I'm making is**. Why do I constantly need this future path/plan of experiences to guide me and give my life a feeling of meaning? How do I learn to let go and embrace whatever I'm served by life and live in the present without caring about where the path leads? **I liked the feeling of certainty that having a (retrospective, almost?) vision of the future gave me but it made me a control freak.** --- TL;DR: I blindly made my life decisions based on a future path that is now long obsolete, but gave me a sense of identity and my life/struggle meaning. How can I let go of it so that I can embrace my actual situation and retain my identity whilst on a path that may end up looking completely different and unfamiliar?

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Asklemmy xelar 4 days ago 93%
Would fediverse work in real life scenario - decentralization of everything?

Decentralized governments/leaders in small communties, decentralized power sources, decentralized market, currency and so on. On top, every community gets own decentralized social network.

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Asklemmy dependencyinjection 3 days ago 100%
Looking for advice on hobbies and whether I should continue rock climbing?

As the title says, I’m looking for some advice about hobbies. I struggle with depression off and on and recently it’s been quite tough to be motivated, but I tried indoor rock climbing and I’ve been going twice a week for around a month and I love it. I like the problem solving aspect and it being mixed in with physical activity, as I have a sedentary job as a software developer so it’s good to be more active. This is where the issue is though, I have terrible hands. I have something called Dupytren’s Contracture, which essentially is extra collagen forms around the tendons and severely limits range of movement in the hands (I’ll post pictures of my hands in the comments). So my question is would you continue this hobby even though it’s wrecking my hands and look at having another fasciotomy to get them less painful. Or can you suggest any other physical hobbies that would also be engaging mentally to complete. Perhaps I should have been wiser before getting hooked on this, but I’m devastated that I might not be able to do it long term.

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Asklemmy Kyoyeou 4 days ago 94%
People that went to Paris, what did you think of it?

Pretty straightforward question! I know a lot of people went to Paris for the Olympics this year, and I wondered what you thought about it

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Asklemmy SurpriZe 3 days ago 91%
Help needed making voice typing work in Ubuntu

I've just recently transitioned from Windows to Linux as a lifelong user and I can't for the life of me find a way to type with my voice. Ive tried some scripts and apps but I couldn't make it work after trying for a few days straight. I mostly need it in Firefox but it'd be nice to have it systemwide. I'm using ThinkPad Carbon X1 Gen 6 so Whisper AI is out of question as it requires a graphics card. What could you recommend?

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Asklemmy Findmysec 4 days ago 98%
Does Wikipedia really need my donations?

Every now and then I'll get an email from someone higher up in Wikipedia asking for a donation. I don't really mind a tenner but I don't know if it pads the pockets of corporate management or actual contributors. Also, are they really short of money or is this tugging at emotional strings a play at something else? I wish Wikipedia survives but there's a lot of projects I need to donate to and I have a budget.

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Asklemmy governorkeagan 4 days ago 96%
Is aftershave worth it?

It’s been a few years since I last shaved my beard. If I don’t get irritated skin after shaving should I still use an aftershave? If so, what do you recommend?

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Asklemmy SassyRamen 2 days ago 44%
Politics aside, which countries would be best friends?

I really enjoy Chinese culture and I find the Chinese people for the most part absolutely astounding, sadly our governments play us against one another. If all political nonsense and greed were to be set aside, which countries do you think would be best friends, or even allied together, based on their people alone?

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Asklemmy No_Support_8363 6 days ago 97%
People of lemmy, what was your “oh crap” moment?

Please just provide a short, medium or long story

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Asklemmy greywolf0x1 3 days ago 25%
Touch Typing

Good day to everyone except to the neo-liberals always btching about .ml being a communist instance, we don't care about your opinions Moving on, I got my first computer about two years ago and typing has been a pain, last year I read a post online about touch typing and I've been trying to do that ever since but switching from my "hunt and peck" method is quite difficult. Changing hand forms and trying to return my hands to the home format has always made me given up on touch typing. I now have a lot of typing and note-taking to do and I'm trying to learn this, so I'm looking for tips and advices on how to make this easier thanks in advance, pals also, if you're on linux and want to try this out, there's this native app I'm using [Klavaro](https://klavaro.sourceforge.io/en/). It is also available as a Flatpak

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Asklemmy pocker_machine 6 days ago 87%
What is your take on youtubers looking at multiple cameras on their videos ?

I see this trend lately where a lot of youtubers tend to face and look at multiple cameras while they are explaining stuff. I don’t know if it adds anything to the experience. Sometimes I even feel dizzy, probably my brain not able to process so many movements while trying to understand them. Do you find it amusing ?

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Asklemmy CraigOhMyEggo 5 days ago 100%
What duration of time do you connect to intellectual property?

It's one thing that copyright/IP is such a matter of debate in the creative world, but a whole new layer is added onto that when people say that it only matters for a certain amount of time. You may have read all those articles a few months ago, the same ones telling us about how Mickey Mouse (technically Steamboat Willy) is now up for grabs 95 years after his creation. There are those who say "as long as it's popular it shouldn't be pirated", those who say "as long as the creator is around", those who don't apply a set frame, etc. I've even seen people say they wouldn't dare redistribute paleolithic paintings because it was their spark on the world. What philosophy of statutes of limitation make the most sense to you when it comes to creative work?

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Asklemmy Mastersmacks 6 days ago 94%
How could I make my town a little less lame

I just moved into a new area, well in area that I used to live in and I remembered how lame it is. Most shops close at like 9:00 or 10:00. No nightlife to speak of, super family friendly and squeaky clean. Picturesque suburbs but I feel like I'm honestly trapped. But then it occurred to me. There might actually be something I can do about it, I mean there must be some reason why this village in particular closes super early and all the surrounding ones have normal times right? It's a smallish town, I must be able to do something, right? Anybody have any idea where I can start? Start to maybe bring some nightlife into this place, maybe some culture that isn't just aimed at upper middle class families with young children? Please let me know if you have any ideas, I've never done something like this before

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Asklemmy turnerpike20 1 week ago 92%
What should I do if I find a bag by the road that I'm concerned it's a dead body?

So I was walking and found this garbage bag that had flys on it and it was tied up. I kicked at it a bit and it did feel like something limp was in there like it was dead. Tried to untie it as well so might have my fingerprints on it. But yeah a car came up and was yeah someone actually concerned for me and he's like I'm going to pray for you man. So that right there just got me to stop looking any further at the bag. But I'm still kinda of interested if I should've said something right then and there. My phone was almost dead anyway. But yeah I was thinking maybe I might find a dead body maybe a part of a dead body. I didn't look any further but it was out of place I felt. Should I report such finds?

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