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  • dandelion dandelion 3 weeks ago 100%

    This was published February 2015.

    Looking around for something more science-y, I found this article published in November 2007:

    Report of Fertility in a Woman with a Predominantly 46,XY Karyotype in a Family with Multiple Disorders of Sexual Development

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  • dandelion dandelion 3 weeks ago 62%

    The reason cats can't be vegan is that they cannot produce an amino acid called taurine, which is something dogs and humans can produce (but which we also get sometimes from dietary sources).

    Most dietary sources of taurine are meat. This is why dogs and humans "can be vegan" but cats "can't". However, vegan taurine is made and can be bought as a supplement, both for humans (if you want to ensure you get some taurine in your diet), but also in properly made vegan cat food.

    It seems to me then that cats can be vegan, just not without intentional effort to ensure proper supplementation of taurine. That is, they couldn't be vegan in the wild (where the only source of taurine is meat) and you can't just start to feed them a vegan diet without taurine and expect the cat to be healthy and survive.

    In fact, cats fed a proper vegan diet tend to have better health:

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10499249/

    I think the question is really what you are feeding your "vegan" cat: if you have managed to find (or make) a properly fortified vegan cat food it is theoretically possible to feed your cat a vegan diet.

    This all feels a bit like the "controversy" around feeding young children and babies a vegan diet: done poorly it can be catastrophic (pun not intended), but it's entirely possible to have a healthy vegan diet when enough effort is put into ensuring nutritional needs are actually satisfied.

    That said, I also know of two other vegan responses:

    1. for some vegans, having pets is not vegan to begin with, so a "vegan cat" is a contradiction in terms even if you fed them a vegan diet, you still wouldn't be an ethical vegan by owning a cat. This is admittedly a less commonly held view which centers ethical veganism on the rights of animals to have autonomy, which if plausible in some ways seems at least impractical in the case of domesticated animals. There are questions of the harm that might be caused by choosing to treat cats not as pets but as autonomy-rights-bearing "wild" animals, but those ethical vegans might rightly point out this doesn't undo the cat's rights and the practical questions should be handled separately.
    2. most vegans I know IRL just feed cats a non-vegan diet, acknowledging it is safer and more reasonable for their cat than trying to figure out a way to feed them a vegan diet. Good vegan cat food isn't that common or easy to find as far as I know, and I assume it would be outrageously expensive.
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    That's awesome, thanks for sharing! ❤️

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    so beautiful 😍

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    🫂 we love you - take care of yourself!

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    so happy to hear that - incredible! 🥰

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    aww, glad you're feeling gender euphoria - if you have the time, I would love to hear more details 👀

    Sorry you got COVID, tho - that sucks. It seems like everyone I know is getting COVID right now.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    damn, that's brutal - it sounds you you need to take care of yourself! 🫂

    I started progesterone yesterday and it's already giving me better sleep, allowing me to sleep a little more deeply and longer than before. I had been having trouble even catching up on sleep on the weekend because I was just doing estrogen monotherapy, I would sleep like 6 hours and the body would wake up and I couldn't fall asleep, even if I felt tired.

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  • libertyhub Liberty Hub Voting is Not Harm Reduction – An Indigenous Perspective
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I am on-board with taking multiple strategies, any political strategy that categorically ignores electoralism or militant direct action are likely making some kind of strategic error. However, this zine does not take that position. Some more context around the quote you provided, first it is under a heading:

    Rejecting settler colonial authority, aka not voting.

    The surrounding context of the quote:

    Voting will never be “harm reduction” while colonial occupation & U.S. imperialism reigns. In order to heal we have to stop the harm from occurring, not lessen it. This doesn’t mean simply abstinence or ignoring the problem until it just goes away, it means developing and implementing strategies and maneuvers that empower Indigenous People’s autonomy. Since we cannot expect those selected to rule in this system to make decisions that benefit our lands and peoples, we have to do it ourselves.

    They are saying we shouldn't ignore the problem that voting is supposed to reduce harm from, but directly address it with direct action. It is not saying we should still vote and participate in electoralism. Nowhere in this zine is it implied voting is any form of legitimate political action, and everywhere it implies it is 1. unhelpful and 2. wrong.

    For example:

    Consolidating the Native vote into a voting bloc that aligns with whatever settler party, politician, or law that appears to do less harm isn’t a strategy to exercise political power, it’s Stockholm syndrome.

    To organize from a position that voting is an act of damage limitation blurs lines of the harm that settler and resource colonialism imposes. Under colonial occupation all power operates through violence. There is absolutely nothing “less harmful” about participating in and perpetuating the political power of occupying forces. Voting won’t undue [sic] settler colonialism, white supremacy, hetero-patriarchy, or capitalism. Voting is not a strategy for decolonization.

    Even if I agree that voting won't undo colonialism, white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism it is clear that voting can reduce the harm of this system by avoiding some electoral outcomes and prioritizing others. This zine would be in a much stronger position if it were willing to take a slightly more nuanced position that voting should merely not be the top priority or focus for political action, which seems exceedingly reasonable and well grounded, but instead it argues the absurd position that voting and participating in electoralism can show any benefit or lessen any harm.

    I can understand frustration with liberals and the dominant prevailing political culture in the U.S. which makes voting seem like the only legitimate form of politics, and so perhaps they feel the need to exaggerate or take a more extreme position as a counter-weight, but it needlessly weakens the position and will only effectively work as rhetoric for insiders who largely already agree and who will simply entrench themselves in symbolic positions like this against good sense, which primarily fractures the left and makes coalition-forming more difficult. I'm not calling for blind, authoritarian left-unity but politics are too important to not be smart and strategic, and I don't see arguing for not voting as the zine encourages helps on any front. The value and necessity of direct action can be demonstrated adequately without making a case that voting cannot reduce harm.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    There is nothing intersectional about participating in and maintaining a genocidal political system. There’s no meaningful solidarity to be found in a politics that urges us to meet our oppressors where they’re at. Voting as harm reduction imposes a false solidarity upon those identified to be most vulnerable to harmful political policies and actions.

    Perhaps some liberals feel when they vote they participate in a solidarity with the poor and oppressed, but this would be deluded thinking. I don't see why this negates the value of voting for other reasons, however.

    The logic of voting as harm reduction asserts that whoever is facing the most harm will gain the most protection by the least dangerous denominator in a violently authoritarian system.

    Is it true that some groups are endangered by one party such that voting for the other might be protective? I cannot tell if the author denies this is true, or that it doesn't do enough to protect and thus should be discarded as "too little, too late". The question is fundamentally whether voting has any benefit or political relevance at all, or whether the benefit and relevance is simply considered too little compared to the moral risk of participating.

    This settler-colonial naivety places more people, non-human beings, and land at risk then otherwise. Most typically the same liberal activists that claim voting is harm reduction are found denouncing and attempting to suppress militant direct actions and sabotage as acts that “only harm our movement.” “Voting as harm reduction” is the pacifying language of those who police movements.

    I don't see how voting, and particularly voting as a "harm reduction" strategy, poses greater risk than refusing to vote. Liberals suppressing direct actions and sabotage is not the same thing as voting as harm reduction, even if some of those liberals will argue for voting instead, that is not the only way to approach voting, i.e. they are clearly not mutually exclusive (you can engage in militant direct action, and vote). If anything, policing militants to not vote is some of the same policing of strategies that the liberals do, just in the other direction. I still don't see a pragmatic justification for refusing to vote, even if I see pragmatic justifications for refusing the calls to not engage in direct action or sabotage (even if sometimes activists blunder in their actions and fail to reach their political goals because they did not assess the situation properly, it is clear that militant direct action can be useful and even necessary in achieving certain political ends, see: the Magna Carta, the liberal revolutions, the Haymarket Affair, etc.).

    Direct action, or the unmediated expression of individual or collective desire, has always been the most effective means by which we change the conditions of our communities.

    Even if this is true (which I personally think it is), it does not demonstrate that voting isn't also a form of political action that can have consequence (and for many, is less demanding of time, energy, and risk than direct action). I don't see a pragmatic argument in this paper for refusing the strategy of voting, even if I see plenty of reasons here to do much more than vote (though as usual we are left with vague notions of "direct action" and not specific calls-to-action, which is fine but might be unsatisfying for some who might agree and want to take the next step).

    What do we get out of voting that we cannot directly provide for ourselves and our people? What ways can we organize and make decisions that are in harmony with our diverse lifeways? What ways can the immense amount of material resources and energy focused on persuading people to vote be redirected into services and support that we actually need? What ways can we direct our energy, individually and collectively, into efforts that have immediate impact in our lives and the lives of those around us?

    The resources put into getting out the vote are not resources that would necessarily otherwise be used for good. I would think the liberals and corporate PACs are primarily funding those get-out-the-vote campaigns, and that money isn't going to go where we want if we Just Don't Vote (if anything, I would think not voting would increase the amount of money being wasted on trying to get out the vote, as low voter turnout would on paper justify further increased funding).

    Of course, the money could & should be put to better use, but the framing implies collectively refusing to vote will ensure this happens, and I don't see anything that makes this seem like a likely outcome.

    What strategies and actions can we devise to make it impossible for this system to govern on stolen land?

    Not too long ago socialists and anarchists collaborated in suffragist movements precisely to help increase the political power of oppressed groups like women, not just out of capitalist identity politics, but out of more radical political commitments. Voting, and getting groups like women the right to vote, are precisely some of the strategies that have been used to disrupt the patriarchal system. We should not throw out a political tool simply because it does not fill all purposes.

    In our rejection of the abstraction of settler colonialism. we don’t aim to seize colonial state power but to abolish it.

    We seek nothing but total liberation.

    That is great, will liberation be achieved in the timeline of elections? Will it be possible to avoid the harm of refusing to vote, demotivating liberals from forming coalitions with the left by depending on leftist votes, and allowing those elections to be won by increasingly right-wing political actors? I am for total liberation, but until it is here there is a lot we care about, a lot worth defending.

    What real risks of not voting if total liberation is not here soon? What pragmatic political outcome is gained by not voting? Do the benefits of not voting outweigh the risks?

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  • mtf Transfem Mang, shit is bullshit: a rant not in need of solutions
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Usually the blood work will vary heavily depending on when you last took a dose. When I get blood work, I do it right before I am going to inject so that the blood levels are at the lowest they could be (the "trough"). With oral I would imagine your E blood levels will fluctuate significantly, so when you last took a pill will make a big difference in terms of what your blood labs show.

    The problem with taking larger and larger oral doses is that it doesn't absorb better and you are just potentially taxing your liver. At the very least I would try out sublingual route and see if that helps 🤷‍♀️

    I wish you luck dear, it's not easy figuring this stuff out (esp. with clueless doctors).

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    So your testosterone is really low !! But I would personally consider estrogen too low, though you know your own body best. When did you get the blood work done compared to the last dose you took?

    I think the common conservative recommendation is to have between 100 - 200 pg/mL so your blood work looks good on paper, but I personally found below 300 at trough was mentally difficult for me. I use estrogen as my anti-androgen ("monotherapy"), so I take a larger dose than most.

    You might consider aiming for higher blood levels of E and with a better & safer route of administration.

    I am a wuss too, it was extremely difficult for me to overcome my needle phobia (I mean, literally breaking down crying after some injections, taking a long time to overcome the mental block to actually push the needle in, just so so so hard for me). But you do get used to it, and it's not bad after you get some practice.

    Also, I inject subcutaneously, so I use really small needles that don't hurt at all (literally, I sometimes can't feel the needle). That was crucial for me in overcoming needle phobia, I think it would be much harder to inject intramuscularly (IM).

    Even if you still can't do injections, I would encourage doing something to avoid oral, even sublingual troches which have their own problems might still help with absorption, and even better would be patches or gel.

    If you haven't already read it, I highly recommend reading this: https://transfemscience.org/articles/transfem-intro/

    It's a bit long and technical, but it might help (it certainly helped me).

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    You've been on HRT for a decade? If you don't mind me asking, what ester & dose and what route of administration? Do you get blood tests and if so what are your levels like?

    IRL I met some trans elders who had been on HRT for a while and didn't see any effects from it (almost no breast growth or much change to their face beyond skin softening some, etc.). I think they were taking the estrogen orally, and they weren't sure exactly about their blood levels, but they thought they were fine.

    When taken orally, I think around 80% of the estrogen is filtered out by the liver, so it can be hard to get enough estrogen that way and there are peaks and troughs multiple times a day (it is ideal when taking oral to dose 3 - 5 times a day to ensure even and adequate estrogen through the day). Patches & gel are all better than oral, but injections seem the best in terms of getting a consistently high enough level of estrogen.

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  • mtf Transfem Powerful new advert highlights legal anti-LGBTQ+ discrimination in the US
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Sorry, I still don't understand where you are coming from. Do you mean a loophole to avoid discrimination against you, or a loophole that enables discrimination?

    EDIT: If it's the latter, LGBTQ+ housing discrimination is legal because the Fair Housing Act does not mention sexual orientation or gender identity as protected classes, so housing discrimination based on those attributes are legal by default, and only outlawed in states that passed legislation to do so, see the map here.

    If you are asking about the mechanism of how discrimination works, and how to evade that discrimination as a person in a LGBTQ+ category, that is a big topic and the answers are highly contextual. The obvious strategy is to try to hide or make less obvious your sexual orientation or gender identity, which is easier for some and impossible for others.

    For example, if you are a married same-sex couple who both want to be on a lease together, it might to be harder to hide your sexual orientation from a potential landlord you are trying to get that lease with. Others might find a way to make it seem as though they are just roommates. Not every gay person is equally capable of passing as straight.

    Another example: if you have recently started transitioning and you are visibly trans (i.e. not cis-passing), you are much more likely to have your application to rent an apartment or house denied (HUD found in 2011 that 19% of trans people surveyed reported this happening to them). Whether you are cis-passing is based on a lot of factors out of your control, such as how much money and time you can sink into your transition (e.g. many trans people can't afford expensive laser hair removal and gender affirming surgeries), how early you started your transition, how long you have been transitioning, whether you are taking hormones, and of course a lot of it is dependent on genetics.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Busy and focused on work. Every day I feel exhausted, I'm not going to bed early enough. 😪

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Are you asking how housing discrimination happens?

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  • asklemmy Ask Lemmy Is it just me, or does it feel like Lemmy is being hit with a wave of political spam?
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    is that a lemmy feature?

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    There are more carbs than represented in that radar chart.

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  • mtf Transfem I love getting HRT from a GP that prescribes HRT for lots of post-menopausal cisgender women
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    aw, that's nice - I've heard good things about progesterone as well!

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  • asklemmy Ask Lemmy Favorite colors are lame. What is your favorite color gradient?
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    It might just be that I don't watch TV adverts and I use uBlock origin so I don't see ads online, so my main marketing comes from native ads (like stories on the radio) or billboards when driving places. I guess I mean the environment determines whether how those associations are built, for example I will forever associate British Petroleum with dinosaurs because my parents taped a dinosaur special on VHS and the big BP oil spill had happened so they were running lots of repetitive ads, so to get through my educational dinosaur show I had to at the very least regularly fast forward through these ads.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Yeah, I agree that it is time consuming and distracting. When I was able to do it, I was studying full-time so I could afford the time and effort.

    These days I hardly look up any words (digitally or otherwise) 😭

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    sweet - thanks for broadening my perspective!

    I wonder what fields are the most networked on LinkedIn.

    For example, I know for a while (like 7+ years ago now), Twitter was a place where programmers were networking and jobs could be secured that way.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    oh, interesting - yeah, I try not to let the marketing dominate my associations, but tbh it's impossible to control that; blue does seem to be a corporate favorite.

    I usually think about the time I spent as a kid looking at a cylindrical bulb that had a rainbow color spectrum, I loved the color and especially the blues.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%
  • asklemmy Ask Lemmy Did you expect to be here, now?
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I didn't expect to be most places I ended up.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I wonder if linkedin is actually a way people get jobs (if it ever was) 🤔

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 75%

    I Saw the TV Glow

    I wouldn't recommend it to cis people, but maybe to some trans folks.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    that fade from blue to purple

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  • asklemmy Ask Lemmy Have you ever switched to light mode after being on dark mode for years?
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I use dark mode on my personal devices and light mode on my work devices, that way the screens feel more different and being on my personal devices don't make me feel as much like I'm at work.

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  • til Today I Learned TIL what the ancient Mesopotamians ate for dinner
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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    A word that is sometimes used is "piquant", rocket is just another kind of mustard essentially and it can be hot like mustard can be (think how wasabi is spicy; the greens are not as spicy as wasabi generally, but it's on the same spectrum).

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    this probably won't help you, but just in case:

    I went through a phase in my development where I had to look up a lot of words in the dictionary. There was a constant tension between wanting to stay with what I was reading and wanting to look up a word.

    I got in the habit of keeping a pad of paper and a pencil nearby when reading, and I made it a habit to look up each word I wanted to know - I could either look it up later and keep reading, or I could look it up right then. After a while I got faster at navigating the alphabetic order of the dictionary and I could open the dictionary close to where the word would be. It was just a matter of practice.

    Writing the word down was not just a deferral strategy, but also a way for me to memorize and appreciate the word I looked up - I put in effort to stop reading and look it up in a separate book, and when I first started I would keep forgetting the word and I had to look up words multiple times. Writing it down at first let me quickly refer back to recent words I was trying to learn or remember, but I noticed even just writing it at all made it more likely I wouldn't forget in the first place (so my pad of paper wasn't even all that necessary as a reference, though I could and sometimes did use it that way).

    This is all much more effort than the digital approaches you are talking about, but it was a method that really helped me learn. I would say the learning phase was really intensive for a three to four month period, then it leveled out and I was looking up words less frequently and it was less necessary. It was especially helpful to study the etymology and learn Latin and Greek roots, which then helped me piece together the meaning of words without a dictionary (just from context and etymological guesses). For a while I even stopped carrying a dictionary, and instead carried a concise etymology dictionary, which let me learn the roots of the word and generally had much less about the definition (but gave me better access to the meaning and being able to memorize it).

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I haven't read him, but Brandon Sanderson has been mentioned to me more than once for his world-building. I've heard good things about Tress of the Emerald Sea, though I don't know how world-buildy it is compared to his other books.

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    I agree, download and archive them.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    of course!

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy Help: advice & tools for digital detox / minimalism?
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    Oh, I love that - greyscale as a warning.

    For a while I had my whole phone on greyscale, but I don't have trouble with spending time on my phone - it's really the laptop that I have an issue with.

    Maybe I should write software to conditionally greyscale my desktop/laptop screen!

    Thanks for the link and details, so helpful!

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    for anyone who doesn't have the time or want to watch the video, here's a description:

    ::: spoiler spoiler The video shows happy scenes centered around the home (kids playing, food being prepared, people reading to one another, hanging laundry on a clothesline in the sun, etc.) while voice-over recites what sounds like a poem about the comforts of home.

    The poem is abruptly cut-off as the front-door of the house is slammed shut.

    Text is shown that says in 50% of states in the U.S. you can legally be denied housing for being LGBTQ+.

    There is a montage of various faces of LGBTQ+ people as the voice (revealed to be a Black trans woman) says they all deserve a place to call home.

    The ad ends directing people to lovehasnolabels.com :::

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Yeah, I like to get distracted and sucked into things, esp. on the computer. When I get that way I don't get hungry or thirsty, I don't realize I need to use the restroom, etc. - just completely ignoring the body (which is nice for me). I'm pretty sure it ruins my posture and creates muscular-skeletal problems, too.

    Either way, interesting idea about listening to sounds or music - maybe that would increase enjoyment, but I worry it would reduce the usefulness of the resting (part of what I think helps is that I seclude my senses and I usually lie down in a quiet and dark place). Still, something to explore and see if it wouldn't make it easier to motivate me to do it instead of rotting on the screen.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    You compare it to a high, what was the phenomenology like?

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    I've read in the Datura subreddit about someone who would boil the whole plant down and mix it with cannabis to make dream brownies. That seems insane to me - the risks just don't seem worth it.

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  • dandelion dandelion 1 month ago 100%

    Thank you for the updates in the OP. Just checking in to see how you are doing. Glad you had people to take care of you and it seems you got through it. Those rashes look gnarly!

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    Help: advice & tools for digital detox / minimalism?

    Hello, I was wondering if anyone has recommendations for tools to help with digital detox / digital minimalism. I struggle with mild impulsivity. Whenever I open my computer I almost automatically open a browser and check social media. It used to be a problem primarily with Reddit and news sites, but since joining Lemmy my behavior has switched to regularly checking Lemmy. I'm looking for any tools or advice, whether cognitive-behavioral or technical like browser extensions. In the past I used the Firefox extension called Redirector to redirect myself from certain subreddits like /r/all to something more benign (I like /r/sewing or /r/books for example), and this intervention helped break up automatic behavior and was a kind of harm reduction: still feeding the impulsivity, but with healthier content. I was wondering if there is something like Redirector that redirects randomly with some probability (like 20% of the time it redirects to the target you specify).

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    souvlakis

    Made souvlakis on the grill. Tofu & red onion kebabs, tzatziki sauce, pita bread, gold potato fries, tomato, lettuce. Marinade for tofu was red wine vinegar, lemon juice, olive oil, and fresh mint & oregano from the garden. Pressed the tofu then put in marinade for a few hours. Then I put the tofu on skewers with red onion and grilled them: https://imgur.com/a/1kiMvfE Tzatziki sauce was made with Kite Hill Greek-style yogurt (which IMO isn't rich enough, I would have made my own cashew based yogurt from scratch if I had the extra time). Also included minced garlic cloves, minced fresh dill and mint, coarsely grated cucumbers that were salted and then squeezed with a towel to remove liquid, and some lemon juice, olive oil, salt & pepper, etc. Pita bread was made with freshly milled wheat berries (hard white, soft white, hard red, einkorn, and spelt berries). Also used a pre-ferment to reduce the amount of yeast I needed. Also cooked those on a cast-iron in the grill, which worked well. A lot of work, but quite delicious. What all have you been cooking recently?

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    Vegan Home Cooks dandelion 3 months ago 99%
    made crunchwrap supremes over the weekend

    ingredients: - beyond beef with onions & taco seasoning, - nacho cheez (homemade, the base is cashews, potato, and carrot), - pickled onion, - pickled jalapeno, - lettuce, - tomato, - flour burrito tortilla, - fried 6" corn tortilla for tostada, and - homemade cashew sour cream. recipes to get you going the right direction (not all are vegan): - https://minimalistbaker.com/5-minute-vegan-cashew-queso/ - https://www.food.com/recipe/copycat-taco-bell-seasoned-beef-537562 - [Joshua Weissman](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYXJuzZszMA) For the sour cream, I put 1 cup cashews with 1 TB vinegar (preferably something like sherry vinegar, ACV works too), maybe 1/4 tsp of salt (to taste), and enough water to get to the desired consistency ("as needed"). Blend in a high-powered blender like a Vitamix until smooth. Can also inoculate with a yogurt culture and skip the vinegar and then ferment it if you have the time (use a yogurt maker and instructions, then ferment longer for a more sour flavor).

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    Trans Voice Help dandelion 3 months ago 100%
    Habituation and how to change your inner voice

    Hi, just wondering if anyone else has a similar struggle as me. Sometimes when I'm thinking in my mind, I have a voice (I know not everyone experiences this, but it sounds common enough) and this "inner" narrative voice has habituated to a masculine sounding voice. I have noticed when I'm feeling connected with my gender and it's easier to stick with a feminized voice when speaking aloud (i.e. to others, not internal), my internal voice is likewise easier to be subconsciously feminine as well. Some days I have a really good gender day and I wake up the next morning and my mind has reverted back to that masculine-sounding voice in my head. This isn't necessarily inherently distressing as much as it can feel invalidating or make me feel doubt and cognitive dissonance, like I am not a valid woman because my unconscious has this masculine voice, or the internal masculine voice makes it harder to feel authentic using my feminine voice. Some mornings I try to consciously make it sound more feminine and that is helpful, but some mornings it can feel overwhelming or difficult to constantly correct that masculine voice, and the practice becomes a bit like when I try to use my feminine voice with others - an exercise that makes me feel inauthentic, fake, performative, and anxious. So far the only real solution I have to these dual problems of habituation (for inner voice and outer) is to just keep trying and persist. I have a tendency towards perfectionism, which makes me feel constantly like I am failing, and this can lead me to feel less motivated to keep trying. However, I am continuing to make an effort. I find having a weekly speech therapy appointment keeps me engaged in that process, and from letting it drop due to other pressures. It also usually makes me feel extremely affirmed, as my therapist is much happier with my progress than I am, and this usually results in finding using my femme voice easy and natural (though usually this only lasts the rest of the day, again, sleeping seems to reset everything and the next morning I wake up with a masculine voice again). Was wondering if anyone else has habituated their inner narrative voice, how long it took for them to do that (or if they just stopped noticing or it became less relevant?), and if anyone has tips for overcoming the anxiety of using your voice in everyday situations. I feel like forcing myself over and over into the situations _has_ been effective in reducing how anxious I feel. Over time it has gone from feeling like I almost physically couldn't do it and a rising panic sensation to now it just feels like a bit of performance anxiety right before and I usually slip into it without too much issue - though sustaining it over a long period when speaking a lot can be challenging, and how anxious I feel seems connected to how confident I feel in my gender. So to summarize, things that have worked for me: - noticing masculine inner narrative voice and willfully feminizing it in my head when I notice - persisting in forcing myself to feminize my voice at work and in public full-time, even when it is terrifying and just continuing to get regular exposure and ignoring the anxiety that is there - building confidence in my gender with styling my hair, wearing jewelry, putting on makeup, wearing feminine clothes, etc. help a little with getting on-board with using a feminine voice (I think of it as I have to pass to myself before I feel like I can try to pass with others, so finding ways to look more like your gender to yourself to build confidence will help with using your voice) Wondering if anyone else has experiences to share or advice. Thank you!

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    Vegan Home Cooks dandelion 3 months ago 100%
    Borscht

    Adapted from this recipe: https://ifoodreal.com/ukrainian-borscht/

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    Transfem dandelion 5 months ago 100%
    stable, consistent dose leading to tolerance / downregulation?

    Hi! tl;dr after injecting the same amount of estradiol valerate (subq) for a month or so, I started to experience more dysphoria and signs of testosterone (esp. mental) started to come back. Any reason this might be? Longer version / details: I injected 5 mg (0.25 mL) of estradiol valerate subq into my thighs every four days for a while, and for a couple weeks I started injecting into my abdomen instead to avoid blood supplies. This dose seemed like more than enough. In the past 3.4 mg every 3 days gave me blood estradiol levels of ~350 pg/mL at trough. Recent labs showed 5 mg every 4 days had ~300 pg/mL at trough for me, which was lower than I expected. It's a good level, but I was having weird dysphoric experiences that commonly happen when my hormones are out of wack (usually when I'm taking too little estrogen). Things like really doubting my gender identity, depression (lack of motivation, lethargic), anhedonia (little pleasure, flat affect, often leads to craving short-term reward behaviors). Physiological signs of T were not as evident in this case, and the dysphoria was not as severe as in the past when my estrogen was too low. Still, it seemed a lot like my estrogen was too low. I increased my dose to 5.4 mg and the dysphoria went away within a day and I felt amazing and continued to feel amazing. I intended to switch to 5.4 mg / 4 days instead, but on day 3 I could feel my hormones coming down and trusting my experience I injected 5 mg a day early with the intention of trying 5 mg / 3 days (which is a lot more than I have taken before in terms of what this should do to my overall levels). Still not sure what I will do next. Part of me wants to stick with a 4 day cycle to keep lower peaks and to minimize overall levels (out of principle, I know injecting is not as risky as oral routes). I'm trying to figure out why a stable dose that seems so high and was for the most part effective would suddenly not be "enough" (assuming that's indeed what's happening). For context I'm close to 4 months on HRT, I took bicalutamide for a bit but stopped because I don't think it helped my mental symptoms and that's the most important therapeutic goal for me with taking HRT. I switched to monotherapy after 2 months which is when I started the 5 mg / 4 days. I've heard sometimes the body can go through phases as it adjusts to estrogen early in HRT, so maybe this is just one of those lurches or adjustments? Anyway here are some guesses I came up with: - I gained some weight (like 15 lbs), some maybe I need a little more EV than before? - injecting into abdomen depots the oil differently than the thigh, so maybe I am seeing a slower or lower circulation of EV (or alternatively a much faster circulation that is causing a crash earlier?) - maybe the estrogen receptors are downregulating due to taking too high of a dose too regularly? (I see lots of debate about whether this is a thing, mostly people on Reddit rejecting the idea that this has any clinical relevance.) Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this or has suggestions. Thanks so much!

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    Trans dandelion 6 months ago 100%
    What does "non-binary" mean?

    Non-binary seems like it could have several non-compatible meanings, so I wanted to list some of those meanings and see if there are any others out there I don't know. One way I could think of non-binary is as being a kind of third gender category, like there are men, women, and non-binary people. In this sense of non-binary a butch woman who considers themselves a woman would not be non-binary because they are a woman. Sometimes non-binary is used like "genderqueer" is sometimes used, as a generic description of anyone who doesn't fit perfectly in the narrow confines of the binary genders (i.e. men and women). In this sense a butch woman could see themselves as a woman, but also as genderqueer and non-binary, as they do not conform to binary gender norms for women. Another way non-binary seems to be used (related to genderqueer in its historical context) is as a political term, an identity taken up by otherwise cis-sexual and even cis-gendered people who wish to resist binary gender norms and policing. In this sense even a femme cis-sexual woman might identify as non-binary. Sometimes this political identity label might come with a gender expression that cuts against the gender expectations for the assigned sex at birth, but it doesn't have to. (I recently met two people whose gender expressions matched their assigned sex at birth but who identified as non-binary in this political sense.) I was wondering what other meanings of non-binary are out there, and how they are commonly used. Note: gatekeeping what is "really" non-binary seems pointless to me, since [I agree with Wittgenstein](https://existentialcomics.com/comic/268) that "language is use". I know people get heated about policing what a word means (and I am guilty of this myself), but in the interest of inclusion, pluralism, and general cooperation in our community I think we can find a way to communicate with overlapping and different meanings of a shared term.

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    Vegan Home Cooks dandelion 6 months ago 93%
    caesar salad pizza https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/91f05394-dfd7-46c3-9cce-8a03c130e230.jpeg

    More photos of the pizza being made: https://imgur.com/a/npeE1e8 based on this recipe (not intended as an endorsement): https://www.eatfigsnotpigs.com/chicken-caesar-salad-pizza-vegan/ toppings: - herbed compound butter (fresh parsley, minced garlic, oregano) - tomato slices - red onion slices - mozz. - breaded and fried tofu (as a kind of chkn) - caesar salad dressing (mayo, cashew cream, mustard, capers, parm, lemon juice) - lettuce - parm - bacon bits (used [this recipe](https://shaneandsimple.com/easy-vegan-bacon-bits/))

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    Transfem dandelion 6 months ago 100%
    how to cope mentally during gaps in HRT

    I recently had an injection that seemed to go wrong (CW: blood, I inject EV subq and I hit something like a capillary, there was a lot of blood and it bruised badly afterwards). Within a couple days I felt unusually dysphoric as a result of what I assume was a failure for the oil to depot and slowly release over time. I get these "dysphoric thoughts" that maybe the estrogen is causing the problems, that I don't have objective proof that I'm trans, etc. Lots of doubt, paranoia, and increasing amounts of anxiety and irrational fear (about transition, but also in general, e.g. thinking spiders are in my bed), and I start to experience depression and anhedonia (things aren't as pleasurable, everything feels pretty flat emotionally, I just feel "bad"). Of course when I inject again and it goes well, I feel much better and I forget about these problems. I was just wondering if anyone has advice on how to deal with dysphoria when there are gaps in the HRT. Obviously in the long term, surgery will fix the hormone issue and I suspect that will fix this problem. Until then, though, I am stuck in a rather fragile place where I feel normal (even good, even amazing) when my estrogen levels are high and suppressing my testosterone. Any small slip in that and I barely function as a person. Before HRT I would just do whatever I could to increase mental well-being: - physical exertion (aerobic exercise, weightlifting, etc.) - going outside and getting sunshine - keeping up with hydration - keeping good sleep hygiene (sleeping enough, going to sleep at the same times, etc.) - meditation every day But now it feels harder for me to "bootstrap" when there are gaps in HRT and my hormones aren't right, it's like I'm no longer used to how hard it was before. Anyway - any tips or thoughts, would like to hear other's experiences.

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    Vegan Home Cooks dandelion 6 months ago 93%
    breakfast pizza

    Toppings: - tofu scramble (pressed tofu blocks broken up and flavored with black salt, turmeric, onion & garlic powder, nooch, smoked paprika, black pepper; allowed to sit in the fridge for a long time to absorb the flavor; then pan-fried with onions) - spicy beyond breakfast sausage - some violife "feta" cheez (tasted like the mildest goat cheese, could sub with Miyokos cashew mozzarella, or go with a cheddar cheez) - bacon bits (I was going to use Horray foods bacon but ran out, so I made some roughly based on [Pot Thickens](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_d4IeD7mMc)'s recipe) - extra nooch for cheezy flavor - slices were garnished with green onions Sauce was a sausage gravy, basically I made a roux with flour and Melt vegan butter, soaked cashews and blended them with a high powered blender into a cream, added maybe 1 tsp of white miso paste and maybe a few TB of mushroom powder and a 1/2 tsp of Better Than Bouillon no-chkn bouillon. Slowly incorporated broth into the roux until it formed a paste, then I added the cream. I cooked up a single patty of Original Beyond Breakfast Sausage and broke it into pieces and then incorporated that into the gravy. The crust was made out of freshly milled whole wheat (I used spelt, hard red winter wheat, and soft white wheat berries) and used a sourdough starter. I also subbed a Dos Equis beer for the water (just trying to use it up) and that added some flavor. This pizza was much, much better than I expected. Far exceeded expectations. I had never heard of a breakfast pizza before, apparently it's something people get at gas stations? Either way, this pizza is a winner. Next time I plan to use omelette toppings, like: - spinach - black olives - tomatoes - avocado - bell pepper - mushrooms

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