Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 3 weeks ago • 98%

Not me, but an amazing pep talk I didn't know I needed! 🏳️‍⚧️

I've been starting to notice recently that I've most likely had gender envy at some point(s) in my past. I guess the big question is, have you had any particularly notable instances of gender envy, or your first noticeable insurance of gender envy? **LFG**!

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 1 month ago • 100%

OMG! I follow so many trans groups on here, fb, yt, reddit wherever and there are so many of you that if I didn't see where it was posted I'd assume you were just a rediculously attractive cis woman and I'm so jealous!

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 1 month ago • 100%

Hi all! I've been looking into shapewear a lot recently and looking for any input/advice. I think I'm between rectangle and inverted triangle shape and looking to do some tummy squeezing, waist cinching trying to get more of waist and hip pads or something to make a more hourglass shape. A lot of hip stuff also has butt pads, which I already have enough butt I think 😅 is there one garment that could do all of these any kind of decent, or is it easier/better to get a couple of things more focused on doing one thing good? Also been thinking about breastforms, so any advice there would be appreciated there too!

Femcel Memes Blahaj_Blast • 2 months ago • 100%

I've figured out Iwas trans around a year ago. I've more accepted it 6-8 months ago, and fully embraced the identity a few months ago. I feel like I'm able to see myself as a woman more often(presenting or not; probably the longer hair) but I find it hard to consciously switch names and pronouns since I feel like I still very much present masc¿and don't look so femme, even if I want to. It's like, it feels somewhat in-genuine, you know? Deep, deep down, I want to be her, but also I don't want the confrontation of, "you don't look like a 'her'." I just need some advice/encouragement. My therapist has asked multiple times if they should switch name/pronouns, but it's so difficult face-to-face and not socially out. ****Help plz?**** Edit: I'm not sure how this ended up in the meme community 😅 I posted it late at night, but I thought I got /c/mtf instead

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 3 months ago • 100%

I've been lurking here more lately, but I haven't been completely absent. It's been around a year since I joined lemmy, and just over a year since I came to the conclusion that I am indeed trans. It took a while, I've had a few big steps up in feeling comfortable with being trans. I spent 6+ months on a kick of "I'm not cis/I might be trans" and a bit later to "I'm trans, but embarrassed about it" but in the last couple of months keep getting more, almost, proud to be trans. A couple months back I finally accepted calling myself a trans-woman. Still a bit of a shock to me 😅 I finally started pulling the trigger and started buying some stuff from the women's dept, mostly just lounge and sleep wear. But feel somewhat less uncomfortable about even looking at it. I told my therapist a couple months back I had started more seriously researching hrt and she asked how it felt. I said something like, "nervous, but a little excited.." more recently, it's been more like "excited, with a little bit of nervous. Like waiting in line on a new roller-coaster" My spouse had some struggles at first, and is still also figuring things out with me, but sounds *super* accepting and has talked about hrt and other ideas as if it's any other typical big relationship topic. Also, lately, euphoria-wise, I realized, I fucking love sleep shirts and sleep dresses! It's been just over a year since I cut my hair and occasionally, it sits around my face just right I can see a woman beginning to appear! ☺️ Its getting long enough to be able to do the little head shake/flip to get the hair out of my eye and it's kind of euphoric to be able to do that. ***ANY-WHOSE*** how are things going with the rest of you girls? Any new, unexpected euphoria lately? Any tips or tricks? I feel like I'm past so much fear and almost ready to come out to some people Oh! BTW, I did actually come out to an old friend and an old coworker who both understood and accepted, which was awesome! Edit: also, fun fact! I have red hair. And about as much body hair as is possible. I've been trying to remove it, never really liked it, convinced myself I was fine with it. I'm not anymore. Either way! Found out from an estatician that apparently redheads have deeper rooted hair. 🤷‍♀️ Also! I already knew redheads were less sensitive to anesthetics. So, I have tons of body hair, deeper rooted hair, and numbing stuff doesn't work that well... It fucking *sucks" but I'm trying my damndest to power through.

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 5 months ago • 100%

Did you have a tipping point between realizing you were trans and you started HRT? As in, when you de oded to start, what did that moment look like for you? I think I'm a point where I'm more interested in trying, but have a lot of fears holding back, which I think makes it feel like I want it less than I do. I was talking to some others about this and it made me realize I think I want it a lot more than I thought. Does any of that make sense, or am I just rambling? 😅

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 5 months ago • 100%

I'm feeling *so* much more confident in my trans identity, I te s kind of crazy. I'm at a point where I'm getting more confident removing hair and such. I'm getting to a point where I'm getting super interested in makeup, especially foundation and contouring to cover my nasty shit and hide my big nose and all.. Also, I *so* want to get more feminine clothes. A skirt, a dress, something, but idk what, or how to get something to fit my shape? Basically, I want something new, I have a couple avenues, but I strongly don't know how to do either.

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 6 months ago • 100%

So, I was born(not literally) furry af, a few days ago finally got to "fuck it! Let's do it" and used some depilatory cream to remove basically everything from the hips up. It's a bit weird, definitely different, but I *love* it! Haven't had any comments so far, still a tiny bit nervous about that. But also kind of more of a "who gives a fuck?" mindset. Wifey has definitely admitted to liking my arm freckles being more visible, which feels awesome af too! I'm not convinced its100% related, but I've also been feeling better about myself, which is also awesome! I remember the past few(idk) years looking into the mirror some night and just thinking "I really don't like you/the way you look" but never really knowing why. Lately, I don't have that as much, and sometimes think I'm getting small glimpses of a woman in there! It's different. It's terrifying. It's awesome.

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 7 months ago • 100%

Maybe this isn't the best place for this, maybe it is? I've been thinking of changing my workout routine, but I'm not sure how? For literally at least half of my life I've focused more on building muscle. Now I'm wondering, how can I workout and keep as much strength as possible, but lose some mass? I mean, I'm not extreme bodybuilder, but I'm nowhere near afab size. Is it possible (pre-hormone) to mostly keep streng, but lose mass? I wish a lot of me was smaller, especially neck, shoulders, thighs, and belly. Not totally sure how(or if) I can make changes pre-hrt to get more feminine? I don't want to lose too much strength, but I'm fairly big so I'd like to lose some mass. I guess most of my routine is 3 sets of 8-12 reps in various exercises focusing on larger groups of muscles(e.g. Push-up, pull-up, - dips...) Edit: not sure if it was clear enough, I'd love to lose some mass/size, but as much as possible, not lose strength. Does that make sense? I totally get there is a tradeoff, but I'm not sure how to switch up working out to lose mass? I think I'd like to be smaller (help me to pass?) but I feel like any strength training at all is inherently somewhat bulky? At least from a feminine pov?

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 7 months ago • 100%

I've read more of the gender dysphoria Bible and between thy, my therapist, and some other comments around here, I've finally had a few puzzle pieces finally fit into place and thy finally Feels pretty good. Like, to some extent I've further accepted my transness and just feel more at peace thinking about myself. It's still different and difficult, but to a certain extent, I feel more settled into who I really am and it's kind of nice. Definitely, I'm still terrified of how my state and nation is going, but, I do feel better about myself internally, and it does feel good.

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 8 months ago • 100%

I was at a store earlier today and the woman checking me out was borderline gushing about my nails and how good they looked and how they were between Mardi Gras and St Patrick's day and matched my (leprechaun suit) shirt and it just felt beyond awesome! 🥰 I saw her braided hair on the way in and wanted to say something, but idk how without coming off as creepy since I was still boymoding and all but... # 🥰 Still riding that high 🥹

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 8 months ago • 100%

So, I'm baby trans. I'm exploring, at what feels like a glacial pace, but feel the urge to do something more. More, different clothes, idk. **But ** I think I have this fear of looking ridiculous with something and just hating myself and getting depressed, so I just don't. I was thinking I was "afraid of feeling dysphoric", but today I started wondering, it's that fear actually the dysphoria? Bonus thought; the wanting to explore, but not knowing what to do, feels a little bit like when you have an itch on your back and try to get someone to help but they more of chase it around until you just give up. It's like that. My gender is itchy and I can't figure out how to scratch it 🤣

LGBTQ+ Blahaj_Blast • 12 months ago • 100%

kbin.social

Women maced and beaten because someone *thought* she was trans

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 1 year ago • 100%

www.insider.com

I got this (hopefully) randomly suggested article by my news app, and it's honestly along some lines I've been trying to reconcile myself.

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 1 year ago • 100%

picrew.me

Something fun I just learned about recently I thought I'd share here. I thought some of you may enjoy playing with this. I sure did. It took me a minute to figure it out, but it's awesome because more artistic people can draw the parts and everyone else can pic a picture and dress or decorate it however. One of the ones I did: 

The child in question is almost 6, just started kindergarten and amab. TL;DR at the bottom since this got longer than I expected. He has expressed interest occasionally in "traditionally"/stereotypical "girl stuff", but we never explicitly gendered stuff. Who cares if a boy plays with a pink toy? It's plastic. So that was whatever, but more recently, he's been talking about sparkly pink or whatever color different things like shoes or curtains. Seems a bit more like something, but still we never say "that's a girl thing" or "boys should like..." so it could just be what he likes. He's talked about long hair before, but he doesn't like getting it cut, I think because the electric clippers were loud, and he is likely on the spectrum. So, sure, he wants long hair as a way to not have to do the haircut. But here's the more serious part. A few nights ago, he explicitly asked "are you gonna buy me a bunch of dresses when I get to be a girl?" we were a bit shocked to hear something so blatant, especially because what he was watching on TV was the big robot fight scene at the end of the movie 😅. We asked something to clarify, I forgot what exactly, and he said" when I get to be a girl, when I get long hair like yours" I just self-realized I was trans not terribly long ago, and have not explicitly said anything about it to him, so I'm not sure he knows anything about the idea. I've suggested to my partner before I realized that he had stuff that made me question him. She tried to brush it off as "he can like pink stuff, there's nothing wrong with that" which is valid. But after he said what he said I looked at her trying to hold back laughter looking at her trying to mouth "I told you!" and she was trying not to laugh and looked something like "Holy crap you might be right". It was kind of a funny thing, but like, what now? I'm not sure how to talk to someone that young about something so serious(?). I don't want to force them into a box to have to unpack later in therapy, but I don't want them to get bullied now. They have enough awkwardness and differences going on already that concern me. Also, her family may be transphobic/homophobic, but it's hard to say since they may be masking it since my partner's cousin came out trans. But mine blatantly is transphobic, and some of them likely still homophobic too, though probably a little less so(?) I want them to live their best most authentic life they can, **safely**. And not to have to spend their late 20s/30s unpacking shit like I have. I just don't know what to do. TL;DR: kid might be telling me he's trans without knowing the ideas; i need advice on how to handle things properly.

LGBTQ+ Blahaj_Blast • 1 year ago • 100%

everydayfeminism.com

I came across this recently and thought it was a super interesting and thorough examination of "the closet" or "coming out" of it.

Blahaj Lemmy Meta Blahaj_Blast • 1 year ago • 100%

I just wanted to appreciate all the works all the mods do on this instance! I took a look out of curiosity earlier and was shocked how many things had been removed or banned just within the ***last hour***! Holy shit you guys are hard at work keeping this place awesome! I appreciate, so much more than I know how to express, all the work you all do! 😄🥰

Transfem Blahaj_Blast • 1 year ago • 100%

Any general advice? Don't try x, or definitely look into y? Be aware of Z?