linuxmemes dullbananas • 2 weeks ago • 96%

Debian No I did not completely fix suspend, it sometimes breaks wifi

Libre Culture dullbananas • 2 weeks ago • 100%

Is there a way to release a work under a copyleft license without preventing other people from sharing a copy of it on YouTube (only allows selecting standard YouTube license or permissive Creative Commons license) and similar platforms?

Linux dullbananas • 2 weeks ago • 100%

Edit: it went away after I finshed the t2linux setup

Libre Culture dullbananas • 3 weeks ago • 76%

More reason to also use Alovoa

linuxmemes dullbananas • 1 month ago • 92%

Finding out that t2linux is too broken was like finding out that Santa isn't real

copypasta dullbananas • 1 month ago • 60%

Hello New Century Residents! I know it is dry here in the dusty state of Arizona, however, our fire alarms in Century are very sensitive. Every year we have a student who has a very restless first night from 1-2 hours of their fire alarm going after using a humidifier. Please refrain from using humidifiers in your room so that you are not this person!! A humidifier will trigger your fire alarm and it will take at least 1.5 hours to reset. Thank you!

copypasta dullbananas • 2 months ago • 100%

# Disneyland ## Where is Disneyland? Disneyland is located at the blue block on the first floor. ## What is Disneyland? Disneyland is an 18 bedded children’s ward that deals with acute paediatric medical conditions from ages 0 to 16 years. Children are admitted to this ward mainly from the Accident & Emergency Department; however there are occasions where children are directly admitted to this ward.

copypasta dullbananas • 2 months ago • 36%

I think this is my favorite picture ever. (No offense to Cupcake 🐇🫘)

Videojuegos

Neat - For neat stuff you found dullbananas • 2 months ago • 84%

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/25242946 > I attended a retreat at this couple's house, and they told us this story. I see it as an example of liberally seeking connection and not being afraid of causing people to suspect feelings, all before you even know your feelings and desires. Today, I realized how important this story is. > > In high school, they became very close friends. They even spent so much time talking on the phone every night. The boy dealt with people thinking that he had a crush on the girl, and he kept on denying it. If I remember correctly, the friendship being platonic seemed a little weird to the other people. After 4 years of friendship, he knew his criteria for his future wife and eventually realized that the girl met all of the criteria. So they talked about this and eventually were in a relationship. The boy valued starting relationships with the trust of a deep platonic friendship. Now they are married and have a kid. (During the retreat, the kid drooled on a table, and the dog licked it.) > > When I heard this story, it kinda felt like a glimpse of the future. > > This might be the only time that an adult in my life ever spoke positively about being in such a deep friendship and not quickly start dating. In fact, my own parent once spoke a little negatively about it, and it was about my sibling's friendship. For the Pansystellar Architecture, I am choosing freedom. People should not be expected to be so decisive. > > To be clear, this doesn't necessarily mean you should force yourself to wait for 4 years or start with lots of strict criteria. > > Slightly related fact: At that retreat, we all got flower pots, planted something in it, and kept them. I planted a type of flower called pansies. That's where I got part of this project's codename from.

I attended a retreat at this couple's house, and they told us this story. I see it as an example of liberally seeking connection and not being afraid of causing people to suspect feelings, all before you even know your feelings and desires. Today, I realized how important this story is. In high school, they became very close friends. They even spent so much time talking on the phone every night. The boy dealt with people thinking that he had a crush on the girl, and he kept on denying it. If I remember correctly, the friendship being platonic seemed a little weird to the other people. After 4 years of friendship, he knew his criteria for his future wife and eventually realized that the girl met all of the criteria. So they talked about this and eventually were in a relationship. The boy valued starting relationships with the trust of a deep platonic friendship. Now they are married and have a kid. (During the retreat, the kid drooled on a table, and the dog licked it.) When I heard this story, it kinda felt like a glimpse of the future. This might be the only time that an adult in my life ever spoke positively about being in such a deep friendship and not quickly start dating. In fact, my own parent once spoke a little negatively about it, and it was about my sibling's friendship. For the Pansystellar Architecture, I am choosing freedom. People should not be expected to be so decisive. To be clear, this doesn't necessarily mean you should force yourself to wait for 4 years or start with lots of strict criteria. Slightly related fact: At that retreat, we all got flower pots, planted something in it, and kept them. I planted a type of flower called pansies. That's where I got part of this project's codename from.

A thought I had and forgot to mention in the post about the McDonald's girl / girl 3

I can't remember my exact search query, but it included "social skills", "dating", and something like "free guide". Still gotta try a search without "dating". Useful takeaways: * Situations that are helpful for connection are very broad, and includes going to a store * "perhaps you assume that the woman you just approached would never be the type of girl who views a 10-mile hike as refreshing and invigorating. However, instead of avoiding the topic as you may have in the past, this time you choose to share your passion with her, and your tales of outdoor adventure are so compelling, that regardless of her previous outdoor experience (or lack thereof) she is excited to share a new experience with you!" * This can be modeled as an example of applying an idea from [my "girl 2" post](https://lemmy.ca/post/24654678): "Be very skeptical of the division between fantasy and what you are capable of in real life." In this case, it's the fantasy of connection through doing or talking about one of your hobbies, or the fantasy of shared interest in a part of your life. * Risk is "feeling awkward emotions", reward is "excitement and euphoria by connecting with another human being" * Emphasizing that the risk is just "emotions" is potentially very important * "if a woman attempts to “Creep-Shame” you while you are ineffectively attempting to engage her in an interaction, you do not have to accept her reality as your ‘truth’, and you don’t have to resent her either! Instead empathize with her, brush it off, and don’t take it personally." * "we’ll simply filter a woman’s negative reaction as feedback positively signaling to us that we have room to grow and improve our communication skills" * Something that I think is important to add: after discovering a severe negative reaction, we are morally obligated to think just a little bit about how to behave in the future, but we should not make a change that isn't an improvement in every way, and we should focus on the future instead of the past * "as long as you accept responsibility for your own actions; you do not have to accept anyone’s attempt to guilt you into believing you are a bad person for approaching" * Possibilities when interacting with someone who is not a potential partner (This information is a starting point for figuring out how to pursuade learners to not try too hard to make interactions connect with a long term goal. To be clear, they should not try to specifically pursue these effects. They should just not have an oversimplified view of what interactions do, and not remain brainwashed by some people's tendency to be surprised by a girl and boy friendship being both strong and platonic. Also I think even this list might be too narrow.) * "You COULD attempt to befriend her and join her social circle (since birds of a feather flock together, and perhaps she may try to set you up with one of her friends – but don’t count on that one ;-))" * "She could become a great friend and inspire other women to chase you" * "showing every other girl in the vicinity how this attractive ineligible woman was able to attract this eligible bachelor – perhaps they will get a chance with you too" * "practice befriending a girl" * I would describe it as avoiding the habituation of isolation * "show you off to her friends" * "just become good friends with her. Treat her like one of the guys, trade stories, empathize with her as a friend, and invite her to all your events" * The way I've seen it for a few months is that social connection has many effects, it's completely good to look for short term enjoyment, and which effects occur is mostly not for you to decide Some issues with the articles (partly why I won't actively encourage learners of the Pansystellar Architecture to look at them): * It's not clear to me what these mean, and I don't know if they are okay: * "there will be times when you will **have** to over-shoot and under-shoot the mark" * "There will be times when you will, sometimes by accident, and **sometimes on purpose**, make mistakes" * "if she chooses to miss out on the amazingness that is you" is a risky choice of words (I'm getting "nice guy" vibes) * What it says about physical bonding is not supportive enough of chastity Link to the first article: https://www.textise.net/showText.aspx?strURL=https%253A//archive.is/2022.02.02-085649/https%253A//www.girlschase.com/article/social-life/social-skills-101-basic-social-skills-are-100-crucial#main-content Click the title after "read next" to see the next article (there's 3)

General Discussion dullbananas • 2 months ago • 24%

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/24986940 > ("the McDonald's girl" = girl 3. That phrase was the motorcycle boy's idea. This story is not related to McDonald's or motorcycles.) > > Starting in January 2024, she occasionally caught my eye when I was in the one class we were both in. I mostly ignored her. > > On February 29, when I was sitting down in class and the McDonald's girl was walking in front of me and I probably looked at her for a moment, she appeared to pause and make eye contact with me, and I was very shocked. Later in the same class period, when she was sitting in front of me, she appeared to turn back and look at me. I felt like I knew that she almost certainly had some sort of interest in me, maybe a crush idk. I gradually started to think about how good her personality was (this was likely affected by a lot of bias) and have a crush on her. The beginning of the crush was between March 2[^1] and March 5[^2]. > > This is around the time when finding my future wife before graduation if she could be found was slowly becoming almost like a goal, instead of just a hypothetical possibility in the distant future. (Both of these mindsets are worse than [the exploration goal](https://lemmy.ca/post/24442726).) > > On March 2, me and most other seniors went on a field trip to Disneyland. Experiencing scary rides for fun might have influenced my mindset. > > On March 3 and 4, in a group chat (including the motorcycle boy, but not the McDonald's girl), I sent: > > * "Last Thursday in religion class, [the McDonald's girl] looked at me in an interesting way" > * "It seems to reveal interesting feelings" > * "Probably attraction, but could also be a feeling of impending doom" (2nd part is joke) > > I did not ask "Does [the McDonald's girl] have a boyfriend?" I did not reach that level of fearless communication yet. Eventually you will see that asking this would have made a difference. > > I considered going to the table with the McDonald's girl during lunch and asking to sit there. On March 6, while feeling uncertain that I would be able to do it and that we would have the same lunch period, I saw her but gave up and did not ask to sit there. On March 12 (the next day that we had the same lunch period), I cared more about having undelayed success in doing it, and while being completely calm, I did it, and I was welcomed to sit there. Praying for strength in a bathroom stall at the beginning of lunch might have had an effect. I did this 3 times in total. Also, the motorcycle boy (one of the people I previously sat with) told me in a text "they both asked me what I did to make you sit over there. They thought I pushed you away! 🤬" > > On March 17, at night, I believed that I would probably ask about her looking at me and confess to her at lunch the next day. The next day, the feeling of certainty faded away, and I did not do it. But in the evening, I sent her the creative writing club project that I was working on, with "I'm trying to impress you" as the message. It took several minutes to have the courage to click the send button. > > On March 19, when all students were walking from the church to the school, the motorcyle boy appeared and told me something like "Dullbananaaaaaaaaaas. So the McDonald's girl was telling me... in case you forgot... she wanted me to remind you... in case you forgot... that the McDonald's girl has a boyfriend. I know it hurts!" This meant I was finished with the McDonald's girl. I felt calm at first. Then I started having negative thoughts in less than an hour. The decision of whether or not to sit at her table the next day seemed more scary than it should have seemed. There was a little bit of perceived risk in both choices. Also, I vaguely remember fearing that I would be humiliated a little bit. I thought "maybe I was too ambitious" (this thought is a big no no), but then I had these positive thoughts: > > * My mental model, with lasting regret and lack of freedom being a worse danger, is still correct. > * There is light at the end of the tunnel. This suffering is part of the path to an extremely beautiful situation that I'm looking for. > * This is better than the previous situations with other girls. This time I went so far and finished the situation in less than a month. I hit a new PR. (Very important) > > I was slowly becoming nauseated. I constantly thought about the situation. That night, I felt so much shame, and multiple times in the same night I had sleep paralysis while seeing static everywhere. In the beginning, the positive thoughts didn't stop the discomfort, but they did prevent me from being owned by the discomfort or doubting myself. > > That evening, in the shower, I realized that what I was experiencing was the growth of only one person, and that I could try to have a ripple effect. Later, this led to sharing of wisdom and encouragement, and eventually Project Pansystellar. This stuff might be described in another post. > > The next day, at lunch, I did not have the strength to sit at the table with the McDonald's girl or at the table where I sat previously, so I sat far away by myself near a tree and facing a field of grass. In retrospect, this was the right choice. It was therapeutic. I had a huge need for rest. > > I developed a mindset of fully allowing and embracing this level of discomfort in me, just like falling when learning how to walk, or like recovering after intense workout. On the next day (March 21), I changed my senior quote submission from "I accept control over Lemmy's code to sabotage Reddit, not Lemmy" to "Try, mess up, have nauseating embarrasment. Better than no ambition." > > Before March 24, I had these thoughts: > > * All I did wrong (not morally wrong) was I didn't ask if the girl had a boyfriend (as mentioned earlier), and I didn't recognize the lack of sufficient connection after 2 or 3 times of sitting at her table at lunch. The idea that I messed up more severely was an illusion. > * Reducing one's level of ambition is a poor substitute for tweaking the goal that is thought of. In other words, only change how the ambition is applied. (This turned out to be a important concept, and it's very fundamental to my design approach for the Pansystellar Architecture.) (In this situation, I decided to make my goal include finding a girl that I develop a deep enough connection with easily enough in the beginning. This did not fix everything, as you will see in a future post.) > * Physical attraction, either to or from me, should be mostly ignored. (**This one is not very useful, and it's probably false.** The underlying problems can be solved differently, partly using things from my other posts.) > > Around a month later, I realized that my discomfort and doubt after finding out that the McDonald's girl had a boyfriend was probably mostly an attack from Satan, and that a person like me having the persistence needed for the path to marriage and parenthood is probably scary to Satan because it's a path to things that strongly oppose Satan's vision for society, including these things which all cause increased similarity to Jesus: > > * Obsession with the happiness of someone other than myself > * Positively influencing the world through how I raise my children > > Eventually I knew that the motorcycle boy was surprised that I didn't know that the McDonald's girl had a boyfriend. > > I quickly began to see this as just a high school memory. > > Key ideas: > > * Don't treat uncertain information as very likely to be true (in this case, the girl having interest in me that I should act on). > * Someone being interested in you is not necessarily a special and important situation. (Seeing your ability to do something that makes someone feel good is different) > * Other people can overestimate your knowledge about someone. > * An uncomfortable situation is not a forbidden situation. > * Taking a break can be a good choice. > * Think of the past and the future so you can recognize self-improvement and not falsely see your current situation as being disconnected from goodness. To be clear, you shouldn't try too hard to make your specific actions connect with a future goal. > * Emotions don't accurately reveal something about you. Judge your actions and decisions using reason. Be skeptical of negative emotions. > * Modify the mental system that ambition is applied to, instead of reducing the level of ambition. Resting is an exception to this. > * Allow the present to be like a childhood memory. > > [^1]: On this day, I said a joke hoping it would impress [girl 2](https://lemmy.ca/post/24654678) (in the same restaurant near Disneyland in which I wrote [this comment](https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/4479#discussion_r1509989814)). > > [^2]: On this day, in the shower, I thought about telling the McDonald's girl that I have a crush on her. > > Edit: to clarify, my discomfort was about the situation I perceived myself to be facing, not about the fact that the girl had a boyfriend > > Edit 2: something very important I forgot to mention: my transition into having less social anxiety than average might have happened around the end of this story

("the McDonald's girl" = girl 3. That phrase was the motorcycle boy's idea. This story is not related to McDonald's or motorcycles.) Starting in January 2024, she occasionally caught my eye when I was in the one class we were both in. I mostly ignored her. On February 29, when I was sitting down and the McDonald's girl was walking in front of me and I probably looked at her for a moment, she appeared to pause and make eye contact with me, and I was very shocked. Later in the same class period, when she was sitting in front of me, she appeared to turn back and look at me. I felt like I knew that she almost certainly had some sort of interest in me, maybe a crush idk. I gradually started to think about how good her personality was (this was likely affected by a lot of bias) and have a crush on her. The beginning of the crush was between March 2[^1] and March 5[^2]. This is around the time when finding my future wife before graduation if she could be found was slowly becoming almost like a goal, instead of just a hypothetical possibility in the distant future. (Both of these mindsets are worse than [the exploration goal](https://lemmy.ca/post/24442726).) On March 2, me and most other seniors went on a field trip to Disneyland. Experiencing scary rides for fun might have influenced my mindset. On March 3 and 4, in a group chat (including the motorcycle boy, but not the McDonald's girl), I sent: * "Last Thursday in religion class, [the McDonald's girl] looked at me in an interesting way" * "It seems to reveal interesting feelings" * "Probably attraction, but could also be a feeling of impending doom" (2nd part is joke) I did not ask "Does [the McDonald's girl] have a boyfriend?" I did not reach that level of fearless communication yet. Eventually you will see that asking this would have made a difference. I considered going to the table with the McDonald's girl during lunch and asking to sit there. On March 6, while feeling uncertain that I would be able to do it and that we would have the same lunch period, I saw her but gave up and did not ask to sit there. On March 12 (the next day that we had the same lunch period), I cared more about having undelayed success in doing it, and while being completely calm, I did it, and I was welcomed to sit there. Praying for strength in a bathroom stall at the beginning of lunch might have had an effect. I did this 3 times in total. Also, the motorcycle boy (one of the people I previously sat with) told me in a text "they both asked me what I did to make you sit over there. They thought I pushed you away! 🤬" On March 17, at night, I believed that I would probably ask about her looking at me and confess to her at lunch the next day. The next day, the feeling of certainty faded away, and I did not do it. But in the evening, I sent her the creative writing club project that I was working on, with "I'm trying to impress you" as the message. It took several minutes to have the courage to click the send button. On March 19, when all students were walking from the church to the school, the motorcyle boy appeared and told me something like "Dullbananaaaaaaaaaas. So the McDonald's girl was telling me... in case you forgot... she wanted me to remind you... in case you forgot... that the McDonald's girl has a boyfriend. I know it hurts!" This meant I was finished with the McDonald's girl. I felt calm at first. Then I started having negative thoughts in less than an hour. The decision of whether or not to sit at her table the next day seemed more scary than it should have seemed. There was a little bit of perceived risk in both choices. Also, I vaguely remember fearing that I would be humiliated a little bit. I thought "maybe I was too ambitious" (this thought is a big no no), but then I had these positive thoughts: * My mental model, with lasting regret and lack of freedom being a worse danger, is still correct. * There is light at the end of the tunnel. This suffering is part of the path to an extremely beautiful situation that I'm looking for. * This is better than the previous situations with other girls. This time I went so far and finished the situation in less than a month. I hit a new PR. (Very important) I was slowly becoming nauseated. I constantly thought about the situation. That night, I felt so much shame, and multiple times in the same night I had sleep paralysis while seeing static everywhere. In the beginning, the positive thoughts didn't stop the discomfort, but they did prevent me from being owned by the discomfort or doubting myself. That evening, in the shower, I realized that what I was experiencing was the growth of only one person, and that I could try to have a ripple effect. Later, this led to sharing of wisdom and encouragement, and eventually Project Pansystellar. This stuff might be described in another post. The next day, at lunch, I did not have the strength to sit at the table with the McDonald's girl or at the table where I sat previously, so I sat far away by myself near a tree and facing a field of grass. In retrospect, this was the right choice. It was therapeutic. I had a huge need for rest. I developed a mindset of fully allowing and embracing this level of discomfort in me, just like falling when learning how to walk, or like recovering after intense workout. On the next day (March 21), I changed my senior quote submission from "I accept control over Lemmy's code to sabotage Reddit, not Lemmy" to "Try, mess up, have nauseating embarrasment. Better than no ambition." Before March 24, I had these thoughts: * All I did wrong (not morally wrong) was I didn't ask if the girl had a boyfriend (as mentioned earlier), and I didn't recognize the lack of sufficient connection after 2 or 3 times of sitting at her table at lunch. The idea that I messed up more severely was an illusion. * Reducing one's level of ambition is a poor substitute for tweaking the goal that is thought of. In other words, only change how the ambition is applied. (This turned out to be a important concept, and it's very fundamental to my design approach for the Pansystellar Architecture.) (In this situation, I decided to make my goal include finding a girl that I develop a deep enough connection with easily enough in the beginning. This did not fix everything, as you will see in a future post.) * Physical attraction, either to or from me, should be mostly ignored. (**This one is not very useful, and it's probably false.** The underlying problems can be solved differently, partly using things from my other posts.) Around a month later, I realized that my discomfort and doubt after finding out that the McDonald's girl had a boyfriend was probably mostly an attack from Satan, and that a person like me having the persistence needed for the path to marriage and parenthood is probably scary to Satan because it's a path to things that strongly oppose Satan's vision for society, including these things which all cause increased similarity to Jesus: * Obsession with the good of someone other than myself * Positively influencing the world through how I raise my children Eventually I knew that the motorcycle boy was surprised that I didn't know that the McDonald's girl had a boyfriend. I quickly began to see this as just a high school memory. Key ideas: * Don't treat uncertain information as very likely to be true (in this case, the girl having interest in me that I should act on). * Someone being interested in you is not necessarily a special and important situation. (Seeing your ability to do something that makes someone feel good is different) * Other people can overestimate your knowledge about someone. * An uncomfortable situation is not a forbidden situation. * Taking a break can be a good choice. * Think of the past and the future so you can recognize self-improvement and not falsely see your current situation as being disconnected from goodness. To be clear, you shouldn't try too hard to make your specific actions connect with a future goal. * Emotions don't accerately reveal something about you. Judge your actions and decisions using reason. Be skeptical of negative emotions. * Modify the mental system that ambition is applied to, instead of reducing the level of ambition. Resting is an exception to this. * Allow the present to be like a childhood memory. [^1]: On this day, I said a joke hoping it would impress [girl 2](https://lemmy.ca/post/24654678) (in the same restaurant near Disneyland in which I wrote [this comment](https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/4479#discussion_r1509989814)). [^2]: On this day, in the shower, I thought about telling the McDonald's girl that I have a crush on her. Edit: to clarify, my discomfort was about the situation I perceived myself to be facing, not about the fact that the girl had a boyfriend

Different things in your mind can care about different sets of things. An important example is your fear being disconnected from your inner state and your long term success. Harmony of these things is how to be free.

Bae: before anyone else Baebos: before anyone else but our Savior

I should not have tried to directly resist feelings, but another thing I did which is good is lightly trying to make a tiny positive feeling become huge, which can do things like shifting focus and indirectly resisting exclusive attention. The only thing I can think of at the moment where I should advise resistance is if you feel negatively about someone being with someone else. Proper use of control over feelings will be in the Pansystellar Architecture for sure. Edit: also gotta stay away from lust

copypasta dullbananas • 2 months ago • 66%

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I recently started a document called "what I like". It's mostly things from observations, imagination, and values. Each section, and a small sample of the items for each one: * Mandatory: wants to have children and raise them Catholic * Likely necessary: can comfort our children, doesn't complain about people in a way that needs to not happen in my relationship * Love languages: she doesn't rely too much on giving me gifts * Traits or actions that have made me feel something or have interested me after I noticed them: confident passionate speaking in presentations and debates, shows laughter or excitement in response to something I do or make, often has big smile, silently waving to me, welcoming towards me, staying in pew to pray when others aren't, being curious about me * Other signs of good match for me in particular (mostly imagination of what complementarity would look like): seeks my thoughts, explains things in my mind that I can't explain, inspires me to pursue something, our humor fits together and we enjoy each other's humor * Things that should be acted on in a big and complementary way: imagination, curiosity, excellencism * Things we should be able to enjoy together: creativity * Misc. Now I separately write about some people with a few other specific observations. For example, in the document about the girl I've likely been most obsessed with (I was prematurely committed to someone else and/or in denial until it was too late), I included how she laughed when I said this joke about her project "Pretty Places by _, more like Porta Potties by _" (honestly I included this one so she knows this is about her if she sees this post) and memories of her speaking with perfect confidence (that time in religion class when she said something about keeping legs closed might be my favorite). I could have avoided regret by quickly paying more attention to my vague feeling about her (partly with what this post is about) and trying more to have fun. Thinking and writing about this stuff will probably help with having a more certain and accurately scaled perception, resisting the confirmation bias caused by the appeal of the idea that my search for someone good enough for me is easy or already finished. To be clear, this is not the entire process of figuring out what to look for. These lists are mostly unfiltered, except I don't feel like writing about most of my physical attraction mostly because that would be boring. The whole thing should not be used as a checklist, and it should keep on evolving. It is an additional input to intuition. My search for my future wife might benefit from also writing about platonic friends. This kind of activity will likely be part of the Pansystellar Architecture.