i am unsure what you mean about not interfaceing with apple? I heard in america imessage is a big thing that prevents that, but the rest of the world doesnt really use it. and besides there are many messangers that let you interface.

also i mean the burden to move. the burdon to leave the alphabet system is just as hard as the apple system imo. its just annoying both dont make it easy for any cross useage.

Edit: just wanna make clear i am not an apple apologist. i heavily prefer open source alternatives and use them whereever i can. i just dont get how people act as if andeoid/google/ect. are better or even good alternatives.

no you got a point. i think your listed problems are the main problems you can have. with the hefty price and the "elite" vibe they sell in ads and so on, its really easy to hate. hateing apple feels like punching up.

and (most) android users dont realise that instead of beeing in apples eco system they are "trapped" in googles. I apprechiate apple for them not just blatently selling personal data, recorded from my phone. I also think in terms of polish there is no competiton. whoever used both, iphone and android phone, cant deny that ios is just far more polished. everything just works.

I personally dont like the apple proprietary ecosystem, but with no really good open source phone os, they are the best alternative on the marked atm. i dont know about laptops.

was? ich habe das jetzt oft gelesen und ich verstehe dich nicht. ich habe keinen kommentar über linke oder linke werte gemacht? und ich habe auch kein statement dazu verfasst wer für oder gegen solche werte wäre. Um mich vielleicht anders aus zu drücken. ich finde konservative oder religiöse extremesiten gehören in dieselbe schublade. egal mit welchem religiösen oder kulturellen hintergrund.

mich persönlich stört es momentan reaktionen von menschen zu sehen welche den islam verantworlich für die attacke machen, welche bei einen angriff von einem christen nicht die religion beschuldigen würden.

hard agree. Das fällt für mich in dieselbe kategorie wie ein angriff eines nazis. es sind konservative xenophobe extremisten.

i didnt know about them aswell untill last year. this year the populationnof those exploded. with current global change we can find a new kind of insect every year now.

thank you. i dont understand how people meme stuff they obv dont even consume

why did i waste so much time dealing with my mental health when i could just instead go to lemmy where strangers can tell me how easy it is to deal with. Seriously is changing persoective so hard? as said before i dont even ask for help, or for anyone to change their lives. yet people get so pissed of by the notion that hypersexualisation might be hurtful to one (1) person. (it hurts more but in this thread i feel to be alone on this side)

ill link this short video, since it is more well put then i ever could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IrG68YTMjo

I dont ask for much. literally just wanna follow my sfw hobbies without beeing forced to confront my inner demons every day. I agree that i should "get over it". but maybe you dont realise the scope. this is at best a years long therapy process that in the end might never pay off.

And quite frankly are you also telling war veterans to get a grip, because people like fire work? are you telling parents to stop crying about child protection because if we dont sexualise cartoon characters online we would cease to exist?

i dont even ask to be helped i just wanted to rant. i am aware that 99% of people dont give a damn about trauma. why be so confrontational towards me?

wow. you must have many friends.

still its nice to know someone cares ^^

yeah i know. i just like to dream of a world where i could live without it. Also i really apprechite lemmy for that. its other sites i struggle with. sites with "cool userfriendly algorithms"

yeah, mine too ^^

i am looking since ereydsterday. eversince the pandemic waitlists are months to years in my country. i moved any couldnt continue with ly old doc. havent found a new one for two years now

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depends on the order. if you build abs on testosterone (t) then go on estrogen (e) then you just can with relatively easily upkeep them. if you went on e before working out, its just as hard as for cis women. so hardcore cis women body builder go on t for a short time (some weeks) to get big muscles easier before retuning to e.

just wanna add that it is easier to get them with testosterone. i think it makes sense to make that distinction here since there are literal cis women body builder who take it as performance enhancing drugs.

oh thank god. seeing this post on the second and it made me question taste as a general concept xD

Naja, abgesehen davon, dass der Tipp sich nicht bestätigte (die fesgenommenen hatte keinen Haftbefehl gegen sich) und Schusswaffen eingesetzt wurden.

Ich stimme zu, dass der post faules whataboutism ist. Aber es stimmt schon, dass öffentlichwirksam rechtsextremisten weniger aufmerksamkeit und "gewalt" abbekommen als linksextremisten. Was etwas schade ist wenn doch immer versucht wird beide seiten als gleich dar zu stellen.

quelle: https://www.deutschlandfunk.de/festgenommene-personen-sind-nicht-die-raf-terroristen-staub-und-garweg-100.html

The referenced amulett is also the end goal in rogue

I think i was in a similar spot before (eventhough it lasted way less years). the problem i realised was, that i put my former partner on a podest. they were my godess/queen or whatever. i realised thats because i was romantacising it way more than it was in reality. I did meet them again after a few years and they seem to have changed. thats when i realised maybe they never changed but i didnt see them for who they are back then with youthfull naivity and rosecolourentainted glasses.

i started to change my mindset, in the sense that i dont need them or any partner for my perfect life. i just need me. i am the most important person in my life now, as it should be. it took time, it took therapy, but i got there and life is better without feeling dependent on such (at least partly) imaginary things.

i hope things turn around for you, and you can enjoy the future. as you said the past cant be changed, but the future can.

Edit: typos

Edit2: my wife has adhd and i love her dearly. just as a reminder that you are lovable too the way you are.

I love those colourful birds. i hope they make their home in many more german citys ^^ (and hopefully in mine soon)

Yeah i have basicly no filter. especially audio wise. i listen to all the stuff all the time. and selective hearing is also bad. whatever is loudest, is what i hear the most. sometimes i am envious of people who are able to blend sounds out. sometimes its quite usefull tho ^^ like i dont have to be in the kitchen or the basement to hear when water is boiling or the washing mashine is done. so i guess there are some positives.

THANK YOU! you out into words what i have been struggleing so much to explain. i am diagnosed with social anxiety but i dont feel its quite fitting. i suspect heavily to be autistic, and i relate to your number 2. a lot. i mainly feel anxiety because i know i perform worse. all out of a sudden i cant do things i can do well normally and am quite proficent in, just because someone watches me do it or is just in the same room. im so focused on them and what might go on inside them. this makes spending time doing stuff with other often hard if im not hyperfixating.

ill bring this to my next therapy appointment.

can we also talk about the length of the arms of the person in the back?

ok ill go, eventhough i just started building and dont have such a well written origin and only placeholder names. but it goes like this: the fist thing the world knows is how Infinity has created it. back then the world was quite diffrent. everything was infinite and neverchangeing. out of this premature world Change started to exist. a god equally powerful to Infinity. with Change came day and night, life and death, happines and sadnes. since then those two creators have been fighting an everlasting fight over how the world should be.

there will be like god champions around the concepts of destruction, creation, order and chaos who fight on either side of the two creators. the idea is that the humanoids and animals merely life inbetween this fight on their battlefield. ofc the audience wont notice this godly fight but there are still churches and cults formed around them.

my idea was that i wanted necromancy in my game and it shouldnt be seen as evil. so i came up with the idea that a follower of infinity would see it as a good thing to extent life forever.

thanks for this thread. your story gave me some inspiration to flesh my idea out.

That sounds like a lot of stress factors in your life. i wish your family member will recover well and soon. Tbh i had to google these plant since i didn't know them. they look like quite nice indoor plants. is plant-keeping a hobby of yours? i tried to get into that but my bonsai is barely holding up since i forget to water too often ^^"

Heyho it's me again. After a rough patch in my life i got a sick note freeing me from work. Thankfully i live in a country that values mental health as highly than physical health. combined with a healthy environment at home i can actively relax and recharge. Ngl i do feel somewhat guilty of letting my coworkers down, but i know rationally its for the better. Today i will meet up with my board game group to play some games. This should be nice, since they all know my struggles and respect my limits. Next week is more active relaxation and self care planned. Wish you all a nice week. Take care!

Thank you very much for your feedback. very apprechiated. i had trouble with languages before. as you can imagine the mod tools on lemmy are not the greatest yet. i think i fixed it, to support all languages now. if you can see this answer it means, it worked :)

Maybe a more prominent placement of the donation site might make sense? i am running a small community on this instance and ofc want to help pay for the costs. this thread was the first time saw that donating was even an option.

I love the work you passionate people do on the fediverse. but i also think its just fair to get some compensation for your time and effort.

okay-ish. i thankfully got some support at home. my job wears me out, but i still got a bit stuff done today, and even went to the gym again. its all not easy, but times like these need self care and awarenes and acceptance. thanks for checking in :)

i can feel this picture. for me it represents the times where i am in a situation that should be calm and relaxing, but somewhere in the back of my head sits this anxiety and makes me paniky and turns the calm scene into a paranoid nightmare. it luckily has been a while since the last time i experienced that big time. i also really like that town. reminds me of my home area, and i love my night walks. this picture perfectly capsules how irrational fear can ruin the nicest thing :( i hope you are in better times now, OP!

So my last week was pretty bad. even worse than the one before. i didnt find any chance to practive self care, and stress just grew more and more. im probably in a depressive episode by now aswell, which seriously impacts my rather healthy social life, since my anxiety is now on rampage. this is double bad since there are many events, and social things i would like to do. i spend the weekend to accept that i have to drop all of those plans and focus on my mental health. hope you week have been better.

oh i kinda want to make a personal goal aswell. my personal goal is to catch up on my chores as much as i can and then reward myself with well earned alone time, and be aware that this is a good thing, and i am allowed to be a little goblin in my little cave form time to time ^^

i did instagram for a while many years ago and it was kinda fun. it is not my cup of tea and it didnt keep me interested for long. but i can tell you that noone cared about me beeing all out of a sudden active online to vanishing again. it doesnt do much for me but i have a friend who has international friends, and social media seems to be a big part to stay in contact for them. i would encourage you to try stuff out, see if you like it or not, and then continue or not. i dont think it is worth to force the use of social media for any reason. and the addiction part is real, and i think its important to check yourself once in a while if your social media consume is high.

i relate so much. makeing a doctors appointment for myself usually takes months of procrastination. for my friend? sure i'll call, scedule it and acompany them there :D

thank you for that comment. i am trying. communities like this have helped me a lot in the past and i am just happy to be able to give back with relatively low effort. while i know alot about anxiety i know little about moderating online. its my first time, and i am a bit unsure where i am overshooting or underperforming. it is a learning process for me aswell, and we will see what works best. on a related note, i always apprechiate any kind of feedback.

i agree that it can be daunting to post or comment. i certainly dont want anyone to feel pushed. but i want everyone to feel invited if they want to share something. i think and hope we have a community here that is welcoming and not judgeing, to whoever needs it. if noone needs it, that would honestly make me happy ^^ but realistically the modern life is such a catalyst for mental health issues its sad. and all we humans can do is be there for each other, understand, and support.

and finally i wholeheartly agree. selflove is so important, and way to little teached. you also take care of yourself :)

i might aswell go first again. this week was a rather rough one for me. work really wore me out and made me want to crawl back into my cave. but at the same time i found some passion in three new projects. one is an art project i procrastinated on for years now ^^" the second on is a little pokemon battle simulation i am creating (im learing to code and its fun so far) and the third one is this very community. i am so delighted to see that this place is useful for many people. next week i want to focus more on working on these two project. and in general take greater care in self care. sometimes i tend to forget to do nice things for myself. so i actively plan for a bath and some nice food ^^ its important to take a step back now and then and check on how i am actually doing since in the stress of life i sometimes oversee problems. ngl, i somewhat wanted to make these megathreads for selfish reasons lol. but maybe someone else will have an interest to share :3

yaaay thank you very much! glad to be part of this instance :)

dont forget that a few baby steps already make one huge big step :)

i am a jokester too, what got me into many awkward silences xD just happy to see i am not alone with this copeing mechanism

as others already suggested i think therapy is probably very helpful. but ill try to give another input. do you have any chance to engage in something social? like family functions or some coworkers party you would be invited to? maybe it could be nice to go. it doesnt need to be a big commitment. you can leave early i f you feel bad. but in my experiences this is the first step one can do. and ofc you wont become friends with people there instantly. but the more you are around people, the more those people will like you, in my experience. i was able to make a friend from just beeing at some queer meet ups were that person happened to be aswell. that leads me to the second tip i have, maybe you could find community in hobbys or the like. i find it hard to meet up in real life but shareing my drawings and connect with other beginner artists online was really fun for me. i am not even good. but it doesnt matter ^^ thats why i like reddit/lemmy and the like. i can find a community i find intersting and participate. and after some while i start to recognize the usernames.

i wish you all the best. i absolutly know how hopeless things can seem especially after such a long time. i was once in a similar spot. to you. but even now things can still turn around. there are so many people out there, a bunch of them would love to have you there and eventually to be your friend. the biggest border i had was makeing myself aviable for others, by beeing in public at events or in communitys.