Wow you're a transphobe too? fuck you dude.

It means to call someone trans in denial. It's a big thing in communities like r/egg_irl and it can be quite toxic.

I guess it can be interpreted differently by different people. Though I do feel that at least in the original communities it is posted in on Reddit and Twitter it's very likely it'll be read as invalid or a poor excuse in general, rather than them covering their own motivations. I say that because in the Reddit versions (and a tiny bit the Twitter versions as well) there is generally more of a sentiment that gender non-conformity is a "sign" or are "signs" and they generally are very dismissive of reasons like the ones given. They have a poor record of following the egg prime directive and I have in fact seen on r/traa2 people blatantly shit talking it and saying they would never follow it 😬.

So while I do get that there can be different interpretations, a generalized one (the not so great one) and a personalized one (the better one) I do recognize the communities they were originally posted to on Reddit and Twitter, and I do know which ones they tend to gravitate towards.

I think that it would be significantly better had it been framed as an internal dialogue rather than external criticism. It might still be a bit problematic if it phrases the reasons given as invalid, rather than just not what it is for them, because even though to many people it feels like they said something stupid, they weren't, those are valid, real reasons why people do it. The idea that the reasons aren't valid as opposed to being simply not the reasons for themself in their case is also not great in the same way.

RIght but see, the problem is that this does make a statement that doing certain things makes you trans, whether it's going for it or not. As I said in my response to @AVincentInSpace@pawb.social the behavior shown constitutes a violation of the egg prime directive because it makes assertions about another person's gender identity. It also normalizes and to some extent encourages that behavior.

I don't disagree with you that this community is for helping trans people come to terms, but I'm still not a fan of memes that normalize reinforcement of that idea in the way that is happening in this comic. As a GNC person it feels really shitty to be told that your gender identity is wrong by other people, whether direct or subtle. It's one of the reasons for the egg prime directive in the first place.

Also the other character is committing blatant violations of the egg prime directive by deliberately questioning another person's gender identity in response to the person saying why they like doing something. This is extremely disrespectful to that person and dismisses their identity. The biggest problem is that even though this is describing something internal for the person, it is normalizing something which is disrespectful to the identities of others.

I'm in agreement, I'm not a fan of this implication it really feels like it's just enforcing gender stereotypes for no good reason. People should be able to play whatever character they find most appealing to them, whether that be functionally, aesthetically, or even sexual attractiveness.

Seriously, video games are one of the perfect mediums, we can play them how we want and make what we want out of them. This idea enforces an extremely restrictive perspective on a medium which ultimately is much more adaptive than any other form of narrative medium. Stop trying to attribute a deeper meaning to people using the assets and code in these make believe worlds the way they see fit as opposed to the way that was indended, or the way that YOU think it SHOULD be. (that last part was directed towards OP and people who believe the message of this post.)

Cracking someone else's egg isn't great, it violates the egg prime directive. People need to discover themselves on their own. I get that they say some people are "in-denial" and aren't willing to come out but trying to force them will just make them resist harder, and make them want to do it less.
I feel like this meme must be satire in that regard, as these methods rarely work out as well as portrayed here.

Hello I'd love to help out the community, I am currently a mod on !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone and I also have experience modding back on Reddit as well.

When I was young I was very rebellious and did not follow gender stereotypes, I had long hair and I dyed the ends bright red. People (my teachers) didn't really like that and they often would tell me I must be a girl because boys don't do stuff like that. I find that kind of funny because I did a lot of terrible things that according to their sexist logic girls wouldn't do (like severing my chromebook from their enterprise enrollment (twice with two separate Chromebooks) so I could do what I wanted). Few years later I was diagnosed with an androgen deficiency and I would need to take testosterone or wouldn't continue developing properly. I didn't actually take it both because it made me feel sick and also because all the shit my teachers were saying made younger me think I was going on E and it would make me a girl. So I just didn't take it, and still haven't, that's future Riley's problem.

Years later in 2021 towards the end I learned about Agender and Isogender and those really resonated with me so I started using those but I also never really stopped identifying with male and still very often use he/him pronouns.

Yeah seems like people always forget about transmascs for some reason.

Defederation evading?

That's not a thing, people are allowed to be on multiple instances, if they weren't that would go against the free and open nature of the Fediverse don't you think?

It does sound like you might be a femboy, not all femboys are into fem clothes but you could also be Nonbinary, there are NonBinaries who still use he/him.

Nope I'm happy the way I am, I used to be insecure about my appearance and wanted to look more like a real man (I look unusually young and androgynous due to a hormonal/genetic condition) but I don't really feel that way anymore and am mostly okay with the way I am now.

Very interesting, I will definitely look into that so I can do it when it happens.

I'm Agender and Isogender, definatey one of the more unique identities and gender modalities.

I don't have one yet, but I want to get one, they're so cool. I'd probably either get a classic blue one or a purple one.

I'm AroAce-Agender, as well as Isogender. Though I also do say I'm a femboy (don't ask how one can be a femboy without a gender, it's complicated).

I don't think I need to say this but you should not go cracking people's eggs, it's misgendering and disrespectful and also violates the Egg prime directive. Respect people as the gender they claim to identify as until they say otherwise.

You dumb fuck, you're one of the transphobic trolls this post is bringing up, don't bring that "defederation over opinions" talking point up in here, We all know you're just scared they'll defederate your spam hole, I hope they do for all our sake.

Fair enough, I wasn't really suggesting it as long term ownership, more throwaway that could be deleted afterwards but I guess it makes sense if you're not using javascript that that can't possibly work.

You could try making an account there and DM the admin directly, I think they have open signups, part of the reason they're such a spam infested hellhole.

I'd rather have the Adderall than E since I have ADHD.

(I actually do take Adderall for my ADHD)

I find it amazing that not only was the original comment not removed but that this person wasn't banned from blahaj.zone for it.

@Caitlyynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone Heads up, I got a report from someone seemingly saying that you're misgendering the OP by calling them sis. You're not in trouble because it doesn't seem to come from a place of malice but we do take gatekeeping and misgendering very seriously here, which is why I'm messaging you about this.

I think both are cute either way.

I personally for me prefer the outfit on the left though since hoodies are warm and comfy, comfort > glamor IMO, that's just me though.

oh that's good, maybe I'll give it a shot then. Not sure if I can join though since my app is malfunctioning and the key export isn't working (keys are needed for the blahaj mod chats I'm in since I mod egg_irl and a few other coms here)

I personally don't really like Matrix, I only joined it out of necessity and the whole keys things is uncomfortable and unintuitive.

They're both cool but I prefer dressing as the first one. I just think it looks cooler.

I think both is Bigender.

Why are the warm ones framed as "genders" in this? I can see why people might think those who like Cool white would be mentally ill but not what makes the warm white ones 'gender'.

I would do anything at this point to wake up as a girl

You are already a beautiful girl.

or else you will get sick and weak and die.

Hasn't happened to me yet, I haven't taken any hormones since I was around 14/15 (for less than about two weeks too) and I'm mostly fine. You may be right though I've had people tell me that it's not good and I should do something about it but knowing me I probably won't and it'll be an issue for future Riley to deal with.

Context: have a genetic condition that causes very low androgen levels, not completely depleted but low enough that it's not much different. I was prescribed T when I was younger but I did not continue taking it because it make me feel sick and lots of other factors I'm not getting into right now.

This doesn't really apply to me since I don't have too much T, some might argue I don't have enough (maybe they might be right but I don't care).

It depends on defederation and users banned from this instance (lemmy.blahaj.zone), instance blocks don't have any affect on user visibility, just communities and posts to those communities.

I agree, let's not focus on the awful things happening in the world now and instead focus on the awesome wholesome things, like cute and comfy skirts and thigh highs, oh and the cool masks, those are nice too.

Just try and stay safe out there ❤️

You should save up, the socks alone are worth it.

Still not a good idea to take random prescription drugs.