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[@dating](https://lemmy.world/c/dating) Is there a dating app for Trans Woman to date any femme? So, I'm poly and wanna find more femmes to possibly date. They don't have to be Trans but every time I use Grindr I seem to get femmes that are only wanting for hook ups or guys that are not really understanding what Femme only means. Is there a better dating app for femmes? (Perferible one that accepts trans woman obviously)
I made an account and was met with continuous swiping with what felt like no limit, when closing and opening tinder I am met with accounts that have already been swiped. Reading online says ive been shadow banned, maybe due to VPN. When I go to settings and down to account deletion the app returns an error disallowing me to delete. Anyone else dealt with this?
Due to a bad upbringing and having High Functioning Autism, I've struggled to have socially-appropriate behaviors, which has led to me making A LOT of mistakes with women over the years, and it's why I'm still single even at the age of 30. I know I'll never be perfect, and my mentioned setbacks will always find some way to bite me in the ass at some point, but because I've consistently bettered myself after learning from my behavior problems the hard way, I have no desire to stop doing so, mainly because it's helped me become gradually attractive to women. Rather than desperately seeking out women just so I can FINALLY experience romance, I've decided the best thing for me now is to simply work on my social skills with them by having friendly and meaningful conversations, both online and offline. While I'm sure this is a long-shot to mention, I'm hoping there are women from the Chicago area in this community, because I'd appreciate being able to have an offline relationship as well. If not, I'll just go to places in my area so I can talk to them.
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> If you feel like the dating landscape is bleak, take comfort in the fact you’re not alone. A recent YouGov poll showed that 46% of people using apps like Tinder and Bumble have had bad experiences, and three in five people find the profiles they’re shown to be unappealing. Combine that with a cost of living crisis and the widespread closure of nightlife venues in the UK, and it’s a tough time for people looking to meet their life partner. > > Blaine Anderson is a dating coach who has helped over 3,000 men get out of their dating slump and navigate the modern challenges of finding love. A world apart from the highly dubious world of ‘pick-up artists’, Anderson wants to help men get better at presenting themselves, not simply to pursue sex but so that they can build meaningful, lasting connections. “Dating for men is a marketing problem,” is how she puts it, “… and great guys often suck at marketing.” > > Below, she shares her top tips for finding love – from nailing the perfect app profile to mastering the art of texting and meeting people IRL. They are: * Crafting the perfect dating app profile * Don’t spread yourself thin * Keep the conversation light * Plan a first date that is convenient for her * Don't over text * Try meeting people IRL
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> Bumble Founder and Executive Chair Whitney Wolfe Herd defended her dating app’s new AI feature on stage in San Francisco on Thursday. She went on to describe a version of the future where “AI-dating concierges” message each other on a human’s behalf.
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> Match Group, the company that owns several dating apps, including Tinder and Hinge, released its first-quarter earnings report on Tuesday, which shows that Tinder’s paying user base has decreased for the sixth quarter in a row. On the other hand, Hinge has seen an increase in members who are willing to pay for the app. Tinder had 10 million paying users in Q1 2024, which is a 9% decrease from the previous year. Meanwhile, Hinge now has 1.4 million paying users, a 31% increase year over year. > > The decline of Tinder was foreseeable due to the shift in dating app culture that has taken place in recent years. Younger users are more interested in pursuing serious, long-term relationships instead of casual hookups, which is what Tinder is known for. Since its inception, Hinge has gained popularity among users looking for more substantial connections. > > While Tinder struggles to retain paying users, Hinge is on track to become a “$1 billion revenue business,” touts CEO Bernard Kim during a conference call with investors on Wednesday morning. Hinge has seen a sizeable revenue spike in the past six years, with direct revenue growing to $124 million in Q1, a 50% jump from the year prior. In 2023 alone, Hinge brought in $396 million. > > One issue Tinder currently faces is convincing members to see value in its “à la carte” (ALC) features or in-app purchases, which include Super Likes, Boosts, “See Who Likes You,” and more. ALC revenue accounts for about 20% of Tinder’s direct revenue. However, in Q1 2024, ALC revenue decreased by 13%. This is in contrast to the record-high à la carte purchases in 2018. > > Match Group CFO Gary Swidler admitted during the call that the weaker growth in à la carte revenue has been a downward trend for quite some time. However, it has been becoming “more severe of late” and is “hindering us to perform very well.” > > ... > > In recent months, Tinder has worked to still grow its revenue by squeezing more money from a declining paying user base, as with the launch of a $499 per month plan for elite users. But its forecast for Tinder revenue in the coming quarter indicates growth will be flat or only up by 1%, at $475 million to $480 million, respectively.
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> A class-action lawsuit filed in a US federal court last Valentine’s Day accuses Match Group – the owners of Tinder, Hinge and OkCupid dating apps, among others – of using a “predatory business model” and of doing everything in its power to keep users hooked, in flagrant opposition to Hinge’s claim that it is “designed to be deleted”. > > The lawsuit crystallised an ocean of dissatisfaction with the apps, and stimulated a new round of debate over their potential to harm mental health, but for scientists who study romantic relationships it sidestepped the central issue: do they work? Does using the apps increase your chances of finding your soulmate, or not? The answer is, nobody knows. > > “The science isn’t there,” says sociologist Elizabeth Bruch of the University of Michigan, who has studied online dating for a decade. > > ... > > Of course, offline methods can be frustrating too, but what if they could all be improved? > > The technology that enables online dating presents a golden opportunity for collecting the data that, until now, has been so hard to come by, and for developing the missing science of human connection. And since the companies are so secretive, and commercially oriented, a number of academic research groups have begun building their own apps – ones that will double as matchmaker and research tool. > > Bruch and University of Michigan psychologist Amie Gordon will roll out their free app this summer, to the local student population to begin with, and they hope to have preliminary findings by December. Bruch says that unlike the commercial alternatives, theirs will be launched with full disclosure: “We don’t know who you’re compatible with.” > > ... > > Ethicist Luke Brunning of Leeds University, who with fellow ethicist Natasha McKeever is also building a research-oriented dating app, says that one of the problems with the commercial products is that they allow users to filter their searches according to their own preconceptions of compatibility, which might not be justified. “Relating to other people is a complicated thing that takes work and effort,” he says. “It unfolds in unpredictable ways that often surprise us when we look back on it.” > > Bruch and Gordon are getting around this with a trade-off: in return for seeing the profiles they choose most of the time, users must agree to participate in “Serendipity Sundays” where they have less control over who is presented to them. “The goal is to be as transparent as we can,” says Gordon. “We’re telling people: experiment with us.” > > ... > > One key question will be what exactly people are using the apps for, since it’s clear their goal isn’t always to secure a date. Some might be passing time with a flirtation, for example, while others might be looking to make connections in a new city. Ultimately the researchers hope the companies will use their findings to hone apps that work better for all users. > >Sceptics may feel that’s unlikely, since the companies’ drive to maximise profits is incompatible with many users’ wish to find love and delete the app. The ongoing US lawsuit accuses Match Group of deploying “addictive, game-like design features, which lock users into a perpetual pay-to-play loop”. > > There is some evidence that people can become addicted to dating apps, and although more research is needed, anthropologist Natasha Schüll of New York University thinks there’s merit in the lawsuit’s claim. She spent 15 years observing slot machine players in Las Vegas, reporting her findings in the highly acclaimed book Addiction By Design (2012), and she sees clear parallels between dating apps and slot machines. They hook people with the promise of love rather than riches, she says, but they hold them in the same way – through the game-like design of their interfaces, which engage the brain’s reward circuits. > > Some habitual players of slot machines report entering a trance-like state as they repetitively spin the wheels. “Gamblers talk about this as the thing that they become addicted to – to the point where winning a jackpot irritates them because it stops the flow of the game,” says Schüll. “I have heard people say this about dating apps.” > > But dating apps, she says, are far from alone in exploiting the hook-and-hold mechanism of slot machines. “To my mind, the bigger criticism here is of the contemporary model of capitalism – the click economy,” she says.
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> So how did this particular romantic faux pas become so pervasive? > > Let’s start with the apps, which have seismically altered the romantic landscape. Dating once relied on ineffable chemistry and natural conversation, but it’s become gamified, the unwanted love child of online shopping and the job application process. It’s as though in a capitalist, hyper-individualistic society, men are approaching dating as they would a job interview, an opportunity to prove themselves rather than to foster genuine connection. It’s long been apparent that dating and corporate culture have merged: Bumble has a professional networking off-shoot called Bumble Bizz, while other singletons have admitted using LinkedIn to find love rather than jobs. In other words, men are so busy trying to sell themselves that they forget to ask about you. > > ... > > Writer Grace Flynn, however, suspects that men’s lack of curiosity might be symptomatic of something darker. “I went on a few dates with a man of many words but few questions,” she tells me. “He was the classic Tarantino-loving, dart-smoking, tattooed type, so unfortunately I couldn’t help but match with him on Hinge.” At first, Flynn didn’t notice that he wasn’t asking her much about herself, as she was naturally volunteering information as it pertained to his (many) stories. But by the third date, she began to suspect that he wasn’t interested in getting to know her, but rather was driven by the fact that she “met his standards visually” and intently listened to him talk: the optimal canvas on which to project a fantasy. “Why would a man ask you questions if the answers jeopardise the version of you he wants you to be?” Flynn asks. > > It’s a cynical theory, but one that chimes with Faulkner, who adds that such a unilateral approach will inevitably elicit problems. “If you see a relationship as one where you don’t have to collaborate and you are the centre of the universe rather than ‘we’ are the centre of our relationship, it could cause a warped view of what a romantic relationship entails,” she says. > > Of course, men taking on a dominant role in conversation predates technology. We can trace all of this to patriarchal gender norms, which are, consciously or unconsciously, still being propagated. “Women and men are socialised into different communication patterns,” Faulkner says. “I don’t think there are innate differences, but we sometimes teach children in different ways. For instance, women are valued for being nice and agreeable, which often means not being assertive… Men, on the other hand, are taught to be aggressive and to take the lead.” This is particularly evident in romantic interactions, which serve as a kind of microcosm of broader gender dynamics.
I'm personally learning Mandarin Chinese for fun and watching media.
Hello. I am about to enter the dating pool again as a financially stable, working, hetro, 53 y/o man in the DC area. I have been out of the pool for about 10 years, where do people meet people now?
Due to my "privacy consciousness" (yes, you could call it digital paranoia, but that sounds as if i were ill and not just conscious about how data trade works in the age of total surveillance) dating apps are no options - the compromise i'm living with is owning, using and carrying a phine with me but without any non-free or known malicious (tracking, data-mining, spying, etc) software. Any advice on how to get to know interesting people? How did you get to know your partners or acquantances? Did you just give in and opt for one or another dating platform?
This isn't a race thing, more of a cultural thing. I met a girl on Hinge, she is from China but studies in my city in the UK. We both had a good time, it was a simple coffee and walk date, I walked her home after and we agree'd we would see each other again next week. What I don't know is, how will the differences between our cultures affect dating? I don't want to cross any boundaries I shouldn't and most of all I don't want to offend her. I plan on talking to her about these things if we go on to have more than 3 or 4 dates, but in the mean time, is there anything I should know? I really enjoyed the company of this girl, and I can see myself having something special with her but I'm also being cautiously optimistic, it has only been 1 date after all.
Asking a girl out at my workplace. Hey family! Sooooo. First time posting here, not sure what to include - I’ll try my best. I’m a vendor that shows up at different locations of work. Then later while I was busy, she said “hey how’s your day going?” And I didn’t hear her and she walked in front of my line of sight to get my attention and ask me again. we were talking after and I mentioned the idea of coffee. She asked “why” and chuckled. Again later, I told her the next location of work I would be at sometimes I don’t like working there. She said “oh yeah, I go there sometimes.” I said “maybe I’ll see you then!” And she said yeah maybe you will. Fast forward a week later she shows up with her female friend, and tried chatting but I was busy. I’m back at her location of work and a few friends recommend different things. I told them “I don’t think she’s interested” And they were like are you crazy?! She brought a friend as a second opinion. One friend recommended I just go up to her and chat and then say “hey why don’t I text you my number in case you wanna grab coffee outside of work” Another said that might be too direct. She might be nervous cuz she does like me but is intimidated, she just to just be romantic and leave a piece of paper in the shape of a heart with my number and name. What do yall think? Edit: I don’t personally think she’s “the one” I don’t like pressuring things that are uncertain. I just want to start practicing
Yeah, I'm a programmer and I've got the itch to create one. DEAL with it! 😝 That said, open to suggestions...I realize that most dating apps have--shall we say--less than desirable people on it, but I'm concerned more about the way the platform operates. For me, I think the dating app world is a hodgepodge of garbage. I've been on a lot of the common ones (and I'm willing to pay for one), But most of them are _strictly_ an app--no web interface, and fully closed source and a privacy nightmare...or online but they block you if you even _think_ about using a VPN (because obviously only criminals use VPNs). So from a technical standpoint REST-based dating apps are best, because it can start on the web (and remain on the web), then a smartphone app could be built on top of it. Then again, my aim isn't to digitally violate my users, so I've probably lost that game. 🤣 So, what about you folks? What would your _ideal_ dating app look like?
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Going through a breakup with someone you love is like a punch in the gut. It feels like you’ve lost not just a partner, but your confidant and partner-in-crime. The worry creeps in — will you ever find someone like them again? Can you even be happy without them? And then there’s that lingering feeling, right? What if you still love your ex and want them back? What if letting them go was a mistake? Is it even possible to mend things? Well, here’s the scoop: winning back your ex is doable, but it’s no walk in the park. It calls for serious effort, a good dose of patience, and a brave heart. Plus, you’ve got to bring some wisdom, maturity, and a sprinkle of humility to the table. Your ex needs to see you’ve grown for the better, that you still care, and you’re ready to put in the work. https://medium.com/@teryimashedracktd098/how-to-win-your-ex-love-back-after-break-up-9-ways-to-get-your-ex-back-625bab534e5c
Hey! 😋 So I'm super awkward, and anxious! (ADHD Autisic) And I'm really hoping I could get some help finding a casual way to ask someone out to a concert or dinner without creating the assumption that I'm paying for both tickets/meals. Any ideas other then just bluntly asking to go Dutch?
You cant afford paying half rent? You cant afford going to eat out together, to go on trips or to buy gifts? Do you know that you can only keep them company, give them your love and emotions, but you know that doesnt set you apart from the herd?
This thread is dedicated to thinking about ways in which technology could improve dating. Current state of dating overall is quite bad, and borderline dysfunctional online dating apps are not helping. So, what could be made better from the standpoint of technology? What new methods of providing information about ourselves could be developed? Feel free mention existing projects that try improve dating, or sci-fi stories about innovative dating methods.
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The asymetry of online dating explained with real life data and simulations. Surprising result: The most attractive male profiles get more matches than the most attractive female profiles. https://piped.video/watch?v=x3lypVnJ0HM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3lypVnJ0HM
This is probably just my ADHD talking and I know people only do it because they wanna be thorough. But there's just this thing that irks me. So you're watching a YouTube video and some important person comes up. Like a scientist that discovered something. The presented tells us their birthday, because it may be important in relation to their discovery. But why do I need to hear the whole date? Isn't year enough, or month at most? Especially if the presenter says the date slowly, with reverence, I almost tune out by the time the year comes up, or I try to remember the whole date and fail anyway. Just tell us the actual important part of the date, please. Or don't even mention it if it's not relevant.
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Winter sucks anyway.
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Is it for personal ads? Talking about dating? Dating advice? Eta: I love you all. You're brilliant.